Things I wish I knew in my Twenties ….

The past few days I have been seeing posts that say – People in your thirties, what advise do you have to give to the people in their twenties? While I did comment on some of them, I did want to share more than just one tip. So why not do what I do best and write, it is my cure for everything. Check out my Top 5 tips I wish I knew or had done in my twenties

  1. You don’t have to go to College right away or even at all.

While this is totally against what most people say and think, I am living proof that sometimes it is okay to wait to go to college. My advice would be to go see the world. Move out of your home town. Work. Travel and figure out what you want to do in life, without the influence of other people. There is a huge world out there, explore it. You never know what you will fall in love with. On top of that, if you do go back to college at an older age, you will appreciate everything you learn so much more! Trust me, this I know for a fact.

2. Do what makes you happy regardless of what society, your parents, your friends, or even your neighbors think.

You only have one life. Do not waste it trying to make someone else happy or doing something for someone else.  For so long I tried to “fit in” with what I thought was the right thing that I should be doing. Which in turn pushed aside what I really wanted to do, what my passions were.   You are your own person. Your thoughts, your feelings, your passions are yours and no one else’s. Do not let anyone take those away from you. Pursue those passions with a fire. Do things you love.

3. Save some money from every check

I waited tables and was a bartender for almost 12 years of my life and I have nothing to show for it except some great customer service skills and I know how to make a drink or two. Seriously though, regardless of how much money you make, make sure you save some of it. Save some from every paycheck or every shift you work, even if it is only $5. After 20 shifts you will have $100. Depending on how many shifts a week, that’s roughly $100 a month you are saving. Now just think, if I had done that, I would have over 14 thousand dollars in the bank not including interest. If you have a full-time job, fantastic. Make sure you set up your 401K and at the very minimum put in what you need to get your company to match you.

4. It is okay to be alone

For some reason there is this huge expectation that we have to be married right out of college and have a baby the following year. I am here to tell you, it doesn’t have to be that way. Trust me, I would love to be married and have a family but I also want it to be with the right person. Don’t ever settle because you deserve the world. If your partner isn’t willing to do for you what you are willing to do for them, then maybe just maybe they aren’t the partner for you. It is okay to wait. It is okay to not get married in your twenties. It is more than acceptable to wait for the person that sets your soul on fire.

5. Be a nice human being

There were a lot of times in my twenties when I was not a very nice person, especially since I worked in a restaurant for all of them.  Be a nice person. Show compassion and love. Show grace. No one is perfect and everyone makes mistakes. That perfect family or life you see on social media isn’t real.  Everyone has their own troubles and struggles that you may know nothing about. Be nice and spread some love.

These may seem like small tips to some but sometimes it is the little things that matter the most.

Whatever you do in your twenties, be great doing it.

And as always, spread some love. We could all use a little more love.

XOXO

Casey

Just Keep Smiling …

I don’t know about you but this quarantine this past month or so has left me in a mix of emotions. Some days, I am on top of the world and other days it takes everything I have to get out of bed. Why is that? Why does being stuck at home only intensify the emotions you already have?

What most people see when they look at me, is a girl who seems to have it all together. You take a look at my social media and I do my very best to uplift, encourage, and inspire every day. I have an amazing child that deserves so much more than I could possibly every give. I have an amazing job that I love with everything in my soul. I just started a brand-new boutique (The Rustic Pony) that has taken off with all the support everyone has given me. This is literally a dream of mine coming true. I also am part of an amazing company that sells some of the best makeup I have ever worn. I am two classes and a thesis away from getting my Master’s degree, something that I have wanted for a long time. From the outside looking in, it sure seems like I have it all together.

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I am here to tell you that I don’t. I am just a normal girl who has a crazy range of emotions to deal with. Just a normal person no matter how many wins she gets never comes close to getting what she really wants. A girl who has days were the tears just fall down her face no matter what she does.

I am here to tell you that life in general is hard and no matter how perfect or great someone else’s live seems; remember they are fighting battles you know nothing about. Trust me, this is coming from someone who suffers from self-esteem, confidence and depression issues. Yes, you read that correctly. I am also someone that works hard every day to stay positive. I do personal development almost every day, I try my best to surround myself with positive people who bring me up instead of drag me down. I show gratitude for everything and everyone in my life. I do my very best to trust in the Lord’s plan but sometimes that just isn’t enough.

I am here to tell you that it is okay. There will be some days that get the best of you. You have to pick yourself up though, dust yourself off, wipe your tears away and know that tomorrow will be better. You have to find something in your life worth fighting for and do whatever you can to better yourself for that reason.

Most of all you have to believe in yourself and know that you are capable of everything you have ever dreamed of. No matter how you feel keep smiling. There will be dark days but know that those days will pass and there will be better days ahead.

Keeping reaching for the stars

As always spread some love, we could all use a little more love

XOXO

Casey