Sometimes A Little Help is All You Need

We all need help at some point in our lives, whether that be financial help, moving help, fixing appliances help, and the list goes on. I think sometimes we don’t like to admit that we need help.

This blog will probably be a little touchy for some but I want to break the mold around therapy. For the past 4 years or so I have gone to therapy off and on, sometimes weekly appointments were needed other times it was whenever I felt it was needed. I think one of the harder things about therapy is finding the right therapist and you being ready to to talk. When the two align, it is a beautiful thing. There is something uplifting about being able to sit and talk to someone about what is going on in your mind without repercussions or worrying if they are going to tell your dear secret.

For most people, when we want to vent about anything, we tend to vent to our friends. While this can be okay for some things, sometimes our venting can put our friends in uncomfortable situations. It can cause rifts in your friendships. It can even leave your friends judging other people without potentially knowing the whole story to things. Do your people a favor and leave them out of the venting, go talk to a therapist/counselor instead.

For me, therapy has always been a way of me trying to understand something or potentially understanding someone else’s point of you. When you have an unbiased person talking to you about different examples or a potential point of view about why something is happening, you tend to listen better. Recently, I have become very interested in learning more about why I react the way I do, or why I get overly emotional at the drop of a hat. The human brain is a very intriguing thing and learning how I can show up better in my relationships is always a beautiful thing.

If you have never thought about therapy before, you should let the thought cross your mind. If you have a thought about it but never taken action, try it. It may take a couple therapist to find “the one” but I can promise you it’s worth it.

As always share some love, we could all use a little more love.

XOXO

Casey

More Conversations and Less Confrontations

This is not intended to be a political blog but I am sure it will be looked at that way. I have been watching these last few months, the posts on social media, the media on television, and even the radio stations, all bashing each side over and over again. The thing that I find so concerning in all of this is that there is no talking to one another to actually discover what the differences are. People don’t sit down and have conversations anymore.

What happened to understanding each other? What happened to agreeing to disagree? What happened to having your own viewpoint and yet still being able to get along with other people in the world who don’t have the same viewpoint as you?

I tend to lean to social media/ the internet as some of the cause of this. People get online and post their opinions, which this is perfectly fine. However, when people comment with a difference of opinion, there is no discussion. It goes straight to a full blown drawn out argument or simply getting blocked. I do believe that reading a text is completely different than hearing someone say the exact words to you. Unless you know the person, you have no idea how that “text” is coming across and I would say 9 out of 10 times, that “text” gets misconstrued in the negative way. I also believe that social media/ the internet have made having an actual face to face conversation a lot harder. It is so much easier to be absorbed online and not get out and meet people.

I do want to say that there will probably always be people that are intentionally mean online. That is just some people’s nature, that doesn’t mean you need to reciprocate their behavior. Next time someone comments on your post, how about you ask for an explanation or simply say why do you feel that way? Before you share that post, how about you make sure the information is accurate before you spread it. Before you start bad mouthing the other party and judging people who you don’t even know, how about you take the time to sit down and do the research and come up with your own answers, for your own opinion, don’t let the media just feed you information.

This country needs more love right now than ever before. We need to love our neighbors regardless of how we feel about them. We need to do as much good as possible. Why spend your days on Earth hating and fighting each other? The more negativity you have in your life and mindset, the more problems you are attracting to yourself. My friends, it is okay to disagree with someone and still have them as your friend, family, and neighbor. It is okay to disagree with someone and still show them kindness. We were all made uniquely, we all have different opinions on many things. Don’t let those differences cost you friends and family.

As always share some love, we could all use a little more love.

XOXO

Casey