In Order to Grow, You First Have to see Value in Yourself

For me, I love learning. I find many different things fascinating and want to learn as much as I can about them. My current obsession is self-growth. I have grown so much the last year but feel like I have so far to go. I am constantly trying to think of ways to stretch my comfort zone. 

I began reading John Maxwell’s – The 15 Invaluable Laws of Growth – I made it to Chapter 3 and I was blown away and I had to share it with y’all!

Chapter 3 – The Law of the Mirror – You Must See Value in Yourself to Add Value to Yourself

The chapter goes on to discuss the power of positive self-esteem and that low self-esteem puts a ceiling on your potential. The value we place on ourselves is usually the value others place on us. For someone who has struggled with self-esteem issues and has always wondered why certain people, things, and places were attracted to me or that I attracted, reading that sentence, a light bulb went off. You can’t expect people to think highly of you, if you don’t even think highly of yourself first. This goes back to self-love, you have to love yourself first before you can ever truly love someone else.

So what is the next step? You realize you need to work on your self-esteem but how? The chapter continues with Steps to Build Your Self Image

1. Guard Your Self-Talk

Do you encourage yourself or criticize yourself? Are you a positive person or a negative person? These things are important and matter, remember to pay attention to the language you are using on yourself. Many of us say destructive things to ourselves that we would never say to another person we cared about.

2. Stop Comparing Yourself to Others

You can’t look at your journey and compare it to someone else’s success. Right now, this is one of the hardest things I am dealing with. Want to know why I am not as present on social media anymore? This is why. The nonstop scrolling looking at other people’s highlight reel, brings all kind of negative juju into my life, so I stopped scrolling.

3. Move Beyond Your Limiting Beliefs

For some reason, we as humans tend to believe we can’t accomplish certain things. If you constantly tell yourself that you won’t achieve that thing, then you never will. I catch myself sometimes wondering if I will ever really achieve my dreams. When that happens, I stop and pause and sit in the moment and think about how I will feel when my dreams do come true. ALWAYS believe you can achieve something, just know you may have to work a little harder for it to happen.

4. Add Value to Others

It is really hard to feel bad about yourself when you are adding value to other people’s lives. You never know how one tiny contribution from you can change someone’s perspective.

5. Do The Right Thing, Even if it’s Hard

Always do the right thing, even if that means you are in trouble. Being true to yourself and your values is a huge self-esteem booster.

There are five more tips but I don’t want to spoil the whole chapter for you! If you are interested in the additional five tips, just send me a message or comment and I will be happy to get those for you. At the end of the chapter, he asks you to reflect and do some “homework”. 

Make a list of all your best personal qualities. This might be a struggle but don’t stop. If it takes you a while, that is okay too but don’t stop until you have written 100 positive things about yourself. Yes, you read that right, 100! I am currently working on this challenge myself and I challenge you to do the same thing. You got this!

As always share some love, we could all use a little more love



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