Sometimes Slowing Down is Key

The past few weeks have been quite an eye-opening experience for me. I have listened to quite a few podcasts and read some books and had previously come away with the understanding that if you want something, you have to put the pedal to the metal and make it happen. This was my current mindset for my boutique, “The Rustic Pony”. I was trying to do all the things that I could do, to make it grow as fast as possible.

Sometimes that mindset and growth aspect isn’t possible. Yes, you want to try your hardest to make your business successful or do your best at work to get promoted. However, there is a line that you have to be weary of. You can’t push so hard for something that it interferes with your personal finances. You can push and push all you can, but if your business isn’t producing the income to supplement that push, then maybe you need to take a step back and slow down.

I was trying so hard to make something work, I was traveling to all the big shows and telling myself that, oh I will pay myself back after the show. That is all great and dandy until your show doesn’t produce the income you need to not only cover the costs, but to pay yourself back as well. While I know most are smarter when it comes to decisions like this, it happened before I realized it was happening.

I want to let you know that it is okay to start out slow, it is okay to grow at a rate where you feel comfortable, and your business can afford the moves you are wanting to make. It is okay that it may take longer than you hoped. Do not compare your journey with anyone else’s. Your journey is yours alone.

I am so grateful that I got smacked in the face the last couple of weeks. It has sent me back to the drawing board and actually given me a breath of fresh air, a new hope of the future to come, and the ability to slow down and do things the right way. There is room for everyone at the top, slow down, truly enjoy the journey and you will be there before you know it.

The Rustic Pony is still traveling some, so be on the lookout as we will be hitting up some more local shows! Interested in what The Rustic Pony is? Check us out here – http://www.therusticpony.com

When Doubt Hits… Know YOU are Worth it!

Do you ever find yourself wondering why you keep pushing for more? Why you keep going above and beyond because it doesn’t seem like it is going anywhere? If all the time you are investing into something is really worth it?

This past week, I was having some heavy doubt. I was getting ready for a Rustic Pony Show. As I was loading up the trailer, the first thought came into my head, is this really worth it? I was able to combat that negative thought and the next day went to work before I left for the show. That day was TOUGH. My debit card number got hacked, it was the day before a Holiday weekend. I had to cancel my card, drive over four hours away to a show with only the cash in my wallet…which wasn’t much.

That whole day, I spent thinking is this worth it? Is all this time away from my family worth it? Is all this money I have invested into this dream of mine worth it? How long do I pursue this before I just give up? Am I even making any progress? Is this the thing I am supposed to actually be doing?

Let me tell you, once I go down a rabbit hole. I go down a rabbit hole. So there I was Friday feeling sorry for myself, sales weren’t going very good either so it only intensified my feelings. I finally reached out to my go-to pal. They laid it out in the simplest terms. You are trying to better yourself, of course it’s worth it.

Let me expand on that just a little bit. If trying to better your life and your family’s life was easy, everyone would do it. It is hard and takes hard work. It takes failing, it takes losing, and it takes grit. It takes waking up each morning and doing something to get towards your goals. It will take hard work, tears, pushing beyond your limits, and possibly more tears. But guess what? It is worth it. Your dreams are worth it, your family is worth it. YOU are worth it.

When that doubt comes around, just push through and remember that everything you are working for is worth it.  

Just one way to handle those negative emotions

Last blog, I touched on how hard this year has been for me mentally. As I was driving last week, I really felt the need to unpack that a little more in hopes that something I am actively going through may help someone else. The past year and a half I have been on this growth mission, becoming a better version of myself, becoming the person I am meant to be. For the past six months, the mental challenge has been the hardest.

No matter how fast you are growing, stepping out of your comfort zone, learning new things, taking on new challenges, your mental state of mind must grow too. I realized these past few months how hard it is to overcome things mentally. When you have been in the negative space for so long, it is really a challenge every day to stay in the positive state.

I am fortunate to have some solid people in my life. They are supportive, they encourage me, they are right there with me on all the crazy wild ideas I have….but they also bring me back to Earth when I need it. They let me know when I need to stop and think, they let me know that I am not always right about everything, and most importantly they let me know all this in a nice kind manner. However, there are a lot of times when something doesn’t go the way I think it should. Negative emotions and thoughts immediately enter my mind. The first thing I think, they don’t like me anymore. They aren’t going to be there anymore; they don’t want to deal with me anymore.

Never once have my people even hinted at this happening, but after years and years of a negative mindset and mental abuse, these thoughts are my first initial reactions. How do you overcome that? All I can tell you is that every day is a new day to overcome the negative mindset. When those bad boys pop into my head, I literally put them in a box and say to myself, “this isn’t true, my people love me”, and push the thought out of my head. I then begin to focus my mind on the next task at hand. Will I ever be able to kick the old habit of negative thoughts? Only time will tell.

I just wanted you to know that if you are struggling mentally, you are not alone. Don’t give up though, keep tackling every day as a new day and you will be amazed at the wonderful things that come your way.

Share some love, we could all use a little more love

XOXOXO

Casey