Love Languages. I have read some on this concept before and am finishing up a book on Love Languages of Children. I am very fascinated by this concept. It is intriguing how different people need or prefer different ways of being loved, how filling someone’s love tank can change their whole demeanor. I don’t think you can fully understand the effects of giving someone love in their preferred way until you do it. I have listened to other people talk before and it seems that a lot of times if we can just give a little of what our partner needs, things would be a lot better for everyone involved.
If you are not familiar with The 5 Love Languages, we are going to jump into them right now.
Physical Touch – you feel more loved when you have physical contact, whether that is hugs, or a hand being held, or a hand on your lower back as you are being led into a room. These continuous acts fill up your love tank.
Words of Affirmation – you love hearing words of affection, and endearment, words of praise and encouragement. Hearing all these helps keep your love tank full.
Quality Time – you prefer to spend one on one time with that special someone. While it doesn’t matter what you are doing, the fact that you are spending the time together is what keeps your love tank full
Gifts – gift giving and gift receiving are very important to you, as these things help fill your love tank.
Acts of Service – your love tank fills when the people around you do things to help you out. Something as simple as washing the dishes or folding clothes would be an act of service
One of the interesting things that I have learned, is that when children are growing up, they will need all five love languages to fill their tank. They will express a primary one but as they get older that primary one could potentially change too. The children’s book is very enlightening, and I highly recommend reading it. That book is called: The 5 Love Languages of Children.
Whatever you decide to do, learning how to spread more love and help our partners and children feel more loved is the ultimate goal. The world needs more love!
Have any books you have been itching to read? Let me know, I would love to add them to my list or do a book review on them!
Today marks a new day. Today, I had a revelation. The past few weeks or more like months have been little rough. I have been searching for something that isn’t there. Searching for something that I thought could turn things around. Searching for something that, technically I can only provide for myself, however, I did not know that.
I am an avid reader. Anytime I see a book that looks halfway interesting, I buy it. Anytime, I hear book recommendations, I write them down. I am open to all books, although I would say my favorite would be murder mysteries and any books that are geared towards self-help and growth. I find it very fascinating, the little tad bits of information that you pick up here and there.
Recently, I started reading Super Attractor by Gabrielle Bernstein. I have had this book for a while now and have even tried to start it before and didn’t get into it. That changed though, now was the right time for me to read this and I am so thankful. God works in mysterious ways.
This book is about really connecting with that high power that you believe in, whether that be God, the universe, or a higher spirit. It talks quite a bit about how to get out of a place of negativity and to really focus on the joy in your life. There is even a list of the different emotions that we as humans go through. Within the first four chapters, I realized two things that I have been doing wrong for quite a while.
When I am in a low state, instead of trying to climb out of it, I just want to be on cloud nine again. When that doesn’t happen, it can make me feel even more defeated. It is better to work on one emotion at a time. So, whenever I am sad, instead of trying to feel extreme happiness. I just need to focus a step up from being sad. Being content. Then focus on the next emotion I need to get me to the next step of being ultimately happy.
My second realization was that only I can bring joy into my life. For so long, I have looked to others and things to fill something that I thought I was missing. No one or no material thing can do that for you. You have to be the one to find that joy. You have to be the one that chooses to wake up each morning and choose joy. You have to be the one that finds joy in every crummy situation you may be in.
It is interesting how much at peace I have been the last few days. Waking up every morning, choosing joy, and knowing that things will work out how they are supposed to work out on God’s terms. There is peace in knowing and appreciating all the amazing things you have in your life. To find joy again in your life is an amazing thing. I hope that every morning you choose joy.
As always share some love, we could all use a little more love.