Finding Joy Each and Every Day

Today marks a new day. Today, I had a revelation. The past few weeks or more like months have been little rough. I have been searching for something that isn’t there. Searching for something that I thought could turn things around. Searching for something that, technically I can only provide for myself, however, I did not know that.

I am an avid reader. Anytime I see a book that looks halfway interesting, I buy it. Anytime, I hear book recommendations, I write them down. I am open to all books, although I would say my favorite would be murder mysteries and any books that are geared towards self-help and growth. I find it very fascinating, the little tad bits of information that you pick up here and there.

Recently, I started reading Super Attractor by Gabrielle Bernstein. I have had this book for a while now and have even tried to start it before and didn’t get into it. That changed though, now was the right time for me to read this and I am so thankful. God works in mysterious ways.

This book is about really connecting with that high power that you believe in, whether that be God, the universe, or a higher spirit. It talks quite a bit about how to get out of a place of negativity and to really focus on the joy in your life. There is even a list of the different emotions that we as humans go through. Within the first four chapters, I realized two things that I have been doing wrong for quite a while.

  1. When I am in a low state, instead of trying to climb out of it, I just want to be on cloud nine again. When that doesn’t happen, it can make me feel even more defeated. It is better to work on one emotion at a time. So, whenever I am sad, instead of trying to feel extreme happiness. I just need to focus a step up from being sad. Being content. Then focus on the next emotion I need to get me to the next step of being ultimately happy.
  1. My second realization was that only I can bring joy into my life. For so long, I have looked to others and things to fill something that I thought I was missing. No one or no material thing can do that for you. You have to be the one to find that joy. You have to be the one that chooses to wake up each morning and choose joy. You have to be the one that finds joy in every crummy situation you may be in.

It is interesting how much at peace I have been the last few days. Waking up every morning, choosing joy, and knowing that things will work out how they are supposed to work out on God’s terms. There is peace in knowing and appreciating all the amazing things you have in your life. To find joy again in your life is an amazing thing. I hope that every morning you choose joy.

As always share some love, we could all use a little more love.

XOXOXO

Casey

Sometimes We All Need a Reminder from the Big Man Upstairs

These last few weeks, I have really been confused on life. Looking at all the things around me and while being grateful for everything that has come my way, still feeling like something is missing. Still wondering what I am doing wrong, still wondering what I need to do to get to the next level.

I am a pen and paper kind of girl and I have number crunched and dreamed and planned things out, so many times in so many different ways and yet the past few years, I have still been stuck in the same place, making not so fast progress in my eyes. In fact, I have probably fallen back some instead of moving forward.

A month or so ago, I was checking out at Hobby Lobby and they had some books on sale. Me being the reader that I am snagged them for a later day. That later day just so happened to be in these last few weeks. Sometimes, God puts things in your life to make you stop and think and that is exactly what this book did. It was a relationship book and while the advice in it was solid, I pulled something entirely different from the book.

If you aren’t inviting God into your life, no matter how hard you work at things, you will never have the fulfillment that you are looking for.

This book intrigued me and let’s just say I needed this book at this exact time. I was broken down, to a point of not understanding a lot of things about the way life was going. It reminded me that I wasn’t praying like I should be, that I wasn’t spending time with God like I should be and that instead of trying to figure out all my problems, give them over to God.

I then proceeded to watch “War Room”, one of my favorite movies with Priscilla Shirer, who shows us how to fight the right way in prayer. There is no better feeling than knowing that you are on the right path, that fire, that excitement that burns in you. My question to you is, how do you keep it burning? How do you keep that fire alive? When the mundane tasks of everyday life begin to catch up to you, how do you break out of that cycle?

If you haven’t seen War Room, I highly suggest you watch it. Priscilla also has a book called “Fervent” that is pretty amazing if you are trying to bring some fire to your prayer routine. No matter what season of life you are going through right now, turn to the Big Man upstairs. Watch and be grateful for the things that come your way.

As always share some love, we could all use a little more love

XOXOXO

Casey

Sometimes Slowing Down is Key

The past few weeks have been quite an eye-opening experience for me. I have listened to quite a few podcasts and read some books and had previously come away with the understanding that if you want something, you have to put the pedal to the metal and make it happen. This was my current mindset for my boutique, “The Rustic Pony”. I was trying to do all the things that I could do, to make it grow as fast as possible.

Sometimes that mindset and growth aspect isn’t possible. Yes, you want to try your hardest to make your business successful or do your best at work to get promoted. However, there is a line that you have to be weary of. You can’t push so hard for something that it interferes with your personal finances. You can push and push all you can, but if your business isn’t producing the income to supplement that push, then maybe you need to take a step back and slow down.

I was trying so hard to make something work, I was traveling to all the big shows and telling myself that, oh I will pay myself back after the show. That is all great and dandy until your show doesn’t produce the income you need to not only cover the costs, but to pay yourself back as well. While I know most are smarter when it comes to decisions like this, it happened before I realized it was happening.

I want to let you know that it is okay to start out slow, it is okay to grow at a rate where you feel comfortable, and your business can afford the moves you are wanting to make. It is okay that it may take longer than you hoped. Do not compare your journey with anyone else’s. Your journey is yours alone.

I am so grateful that I got smacked in the face the last couple of weeks. It has sent me back to the drawing board and actually given me a breath of fresh air, a new hope of the future to come, and the ability to slow down and do things the right way. There is room for everyone at the top, slow down, truly enjoy the journey and you will be there before you know it.

The Rustic Pony is still traveling some, so be on the lookout as we will be hitting up some more local shows! Interested in what The Rustic Pony is? Check us out here – http://www.therusticpony.com

When Doubt Hits… Know YOU are Worth it!

Do you ever find yourself wondering why you keep pushing for more? Why you keep going above and beyond because it doesn’t seem like it is going anywhere? If all the time you are investing into something is really worth it?

This past week, I was having some heavy doubt. I was getting ready for a Rustic Pony Show. As I was loading up the trailer, the first thought came into my head, is this really worth it? I was able to combat that negative thought and the next day went to work before I left for the show. That day was TOUGH. My debit card number got hacked, it was the day before a Holiday weekend. I had to cancel my card, drive over four hours away to a show with only the cash in my wallet…which wasn’t much.

That whole day, I spent thinking is this worth it? Is all this time away from my family worth it? Is all this money I have invested into this dream of mine worth it? How long do I pursue this before I just give up? Am I even making any progress? Is this the thing I am supposed to actually be doing?

Let me tell you, once I go down a rabbit hole. I go down a rabbit hole. So there I was Friday feeling sorry for myself, sales weren’t going very good either so it only intensified my feelings. I finally reached out to my go-to pal. They laid it out in the simplest terms. You are trying to better yourself, of course it’s worth it.

Let me expand on that just a little bit. If trying to better your life and your family’s life was easy, everyone would do it. It is hard and takes hard work. It takes failing, it takes losing, and it takes grit. It takes waking up each morning and doing something to get towards your goals. It will take hard work, tears, pushing beyond your limits, and possibly more tears. But guess what? It is worth it. Your dreams are worth it, your family is worth it. YOU are worth it.

When that doubt comes around, just push through and remember that everything you are working for is worth it.  

Sometimes A Little Help is All You Need

We all need help at some point in our lives, whether that be financial help, moving help, fixing appliances help, and the list goes on. I think sometimes we don’t like to admit that we need help.

This blog will probably be a little touchy for some but I want to break the mold around therapy. For the past 4 years or so I have gone to therapy off and on, sometimes weekly appointments were needed other times it was whenever I felt it was needed. I think one of the harder things about therapy is finding the right therapist and you being ready to to talk. When the two align, it is a beautiful thing. There is something uplifting about being able to sit and talk to someone about what is going on in your mind without repercussions or worrying if they are going to tell your dear secret.

For most people, when we want to vent about anything, we tend to vent to our friends. While this can be okay for some things, sometimes our venting can put our friends in uncomfortable situations. It can cause rifts in your friendships. It can even leave your friends judging other people without potentially knowing the whole story to things. Do your people a favor and leave them out of the venting, go talk to a therapist/counselor instead.

For me, therapy has always been a way of me trying to understand something or potentially understanding someone else’s point of you. When you have an unbiased person talking to you about different examples or a potential point of view about why something is happening, you tend to listen better. Recently, I have become very interested in learning more about why I react the way I do, or why I get overly emotional at the drop of a hat. The human brain is a very intriguing thing and learning how I can show up better in my relationships is always a beautiful thing.

If you have never thought about therapy before, you should let the thought cross your mind. If you have a thought about it but never taken action, try it. It may take a couple therapist to find “the one” but I can promise you it’s worth it.

As always share some love, we could all use a little more love.

XOXO

Casey

More Conversations and Less Confrontations

This is not intended to be a political blog but I am sure it will be looked at that way. I have been watching these last few months, the posts on social media, the media on television, and even the radio stations, all bashing each side over and over again. The thing that I find so concerning in all of this is that there is no talking to one another to actually discover what the differences are. People don’t sit down and have conversations anymore.

What happened to understanding each other? What happened to agreeing to disagree? What happened to having your own viewpoint and yet still being able to get along with other people in the world who don’t have the same viewpoint as you?

I tend to lean to social media/ the internet as some of the cause of this. People get online and post their opinions, which this is perfectly fine. However, when people comment with a difference of opinion, there is no discussion. It goes straight to a full blown drawn out argument or simply getting blocked. I do believe that reading a text is completely different than hearing someone say the exact words to you. Unless you know the person, you have no idea how that “text” is coming across and I would say 9 out of 10 times, that “text” gets misconstrued in the negative way. I also believe that social media/ the internet have made having an actual face to face conversation a lot harder. It is so much easier to be absorbed online and not get out and meet people.

I do want to say that there will probably always be people that are intentionally mean online. That is just some people’s nature, that doesn’t mean you need to reciprocate their behavior. Next time someone comments on your post, how about you ask for an explanation or simply say why do you feel that way? Before you share that post, how about you make sure the information is accurate before you spread it. Before you start bad mouthing the other party and judging people who you don’t even know, how about you take the time to sit down and do the research and come up with your own answers, for your own opinion, don’t let the media just feed you information.

This country needs more love right now than ever before. We need to love our neighbors regardless of how we feel about them. We need to do as much good as possible. Why spend your days on Earth hating and fighting each other? The more negativity you have in your life and mindset, the more problems you are attracting to yourself. My friends, it is okay to disagree with someone and still have them as your friend, family, and neighbor. It is okay to disagree with someone and still show them kindness. We were all made uniquely, we all have different opinions on many things. Don’t let those differences cost you friends and family.

As always share some love, we could all use a little more love.

XOXO

Casey

The Holidays Can be So Exhausting….

This will probably get me labeled a scrooge…. but I will survive. The past few years my joy for the Holidays has dwindled. Now, don’t get me wrong. I love watching Mattie open her presents and seeing the excitement she has on her face when she gets all the new, fun, and exciting things. However, that excitement usually dies down about fifteen minutes later when it is rush rush rush to the next place.

You see, my parents have been separated since before I can remember. My Holidays normally consist of trying to hit 4 or 5 different places, sometimes in the same days or within a two day period. While, it is nice to be able to see all of your family, sometimes it can be overwhelming. Sometimes, I just wish Mattie and I could wake up Christmas morning in our matching pjs and not go anywhere. Unwrap presents, make hot cocoa, play with all the toys, and have a day of relaxation. To make this happen, you either have to 1. Plan Christmas with other people on different days or 2. Make the tough decision to maybe miss some other Family Christmas’s you are supposed to attend. Do you rock the boat or not? In my mind, you have to do what’s best for your family. Meaning, your own little family.

What does your family do for the holidays? Do you travel from place to place or stay home?

Besides the hustle and bustle of the Holidays another thing that has put a sour taste in my mouth is all the expensive presents that are needed to be bought. Adulting is hard! I feel like every year there is more and more pressure to buy the latest gadgets, get the best gifts, and give to all your family. The consequence of that… your pocket book is empty or negative if you used credit cards to buy your presents. Sometimes I feel like we forget the real reason for the Season. We are so busy buying presents or driving down the road that we don’t take time to really remember what that day is all about.

Whatever your Christmas plans consist of, I hope you and yours have a very Merry Christmas! I hope your Holidays are filled with lots of love, family, and good food. As far as our plans, we shall see what happens, I do know that matching pjs will be involved! 

Share some love, we could all use a little more love

XOXOXO

Casey

How Did You Figure Out What Your Ignites Your Soul?

I recently read Untamed by Glennon Doyle and I loved the book. It was one of those page turners for me when I wasn’t expecting it to be. Heck, I didn’t even know what I was getting myself into just knew that the book had been recommended. While I was reading the book, so many light bulbs were going off. She writes about being in cages, basically being stuck in beliefs that we were raised on and never really giving them a second thought. When I finished the book, I knew that it was a powerful one, one that could really open the eyes of people.

Now that it has been a few weeks and I have sat with the book, it has only made open my eyes more. It has led me to thinking about finding your passion and doing things you love. 

Which always leads me back to the question, what makes my heart burn with passion? What ignites my soul? How do you figure out the answers to these questions?

I asked a friend and their response made sense. You don’t. You do what feels right and what you find fulfillment in. Which is exactly correct because the things that bring you fulfillment, bring you joy and happiness which bring you overall peace.

But what if you don’t know what fulfills you? What if you have gone for so long doing things that other people thought was best for you? Society, family, and people you know who have your best interest at heart but may not actually know what lies in your heart. Then what? What if you are so focused on keeping your head above water so that you don’t drown that you have forgotten what brings you pure happiness. Not the “oh this is fun” happiness, but the happiness that takes your breath away, the one that reminds you how amazing God really is, the happiness that you wish everyday was like.

So where do you start? I heard once long ago to just start doing things until you find something. I have tried so many things and actually enjoy a lot of them, the hard part is finding one to hone in on and actually get started. I also know that you can’t wait for things to be perfect to start, you just have to start. So here is to starting….

Share some love, we could all use a little more love

XOXOXOX

Casey

Just Keep Smiling …

I don’t know about you but this quarantine this past month or so has left me in a mix of emotions. Some days, I am on top of the world and other days it takes everything I have to get out of bed. Why is that? Why does being stuck at home only intensify the emotions you already have?

What most people see when they look at me, is a girl who seems to have it all together. You take a look at my social media and I do my very best to uplift, encourage, and inspire every day. I have an amazing child that deserves so much more than I could possibly every give. I have an amazing job that I love with everything in my soul. I just started a brand-new boutique (The Rustic Pony) that has taken off with all the support everyone has given me. This is literally a dream of mine coming true. I also am part of an amazing company that sells some of the best makeup I have ever worn. I am two classes and a thesis away from getting my Master’s degree, something that I have wanted for a long time. From the outside looking in, it sure seems like I have it all together.

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I am here to tell you that I don’t. I am just a normal girl who has a crazy range of emotions to deal with. Just a normal person no matter how many wins she gets never comes close to getting what she really wants. A girl who has days were the tears just fall down her face no matter what she does.

I am here to tell you that life in general is hard and no matter how perfect or great someone else’s live seems; remember they are fighting battles you know nothing about. Trust me, this is coming from someone who suffers from self-esteem, confidence and depression issues. Yes, you read that correctly. I am also someone that works hard every day to stay positive. I do personal development almost every day, I try my best to surround myself with positive people who bring me up instead of drag me down. I show gratitude for everything and everyone in my life. I do my very best to trust in the Lord’s plan but sometimes that just isn’t enough.

I am here to tell you that it is okay. There will be some days that get the best of you. You have to pick yourself up though, dust yourself off, wipe your tears away and know that tomorrow will be better. You have to find something in your life worth fighting for and do whatever you can to better yourself for that reason.

Most of all you have to believe in yourself and know that you are capable of everything you have ever dreamed of. No matter how you feel keep smiling. There will be dark days but know that those days will pass and there will be better days ahead.

Keeping reaching for the stars

As always spread some love, we could all use a little more love

XOXO

Casey

Weddings, CattleWomen and More

It is been a while since I have put pen to paper but this has given me the opportunity to think through a lot of things.  Sometimes taking that step back from a situation helps clear our heads and enables us to look at things from a different viewpoint.

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There have been a lot of beautiful things that have happened lately. Roughly a month ago, I was able to witness my brother say I do to his new wife.  The place was fantastic and the wedding was great, however, my favorite part was watching both of them share their vows for each other.  You could honestly see the love they had for each other beaming out of them.   To love someone that deeply has to be a feeling that is out of this world.  I know I am a little late on this but I had to share it.  To my brother, if you are reading this, I hope that you know how incredibly proud I am of you.  You amaze me every day with your selflessness to serve.  I look you up to you in so many ways.  I know most of the time we spend together we normally end up picking on each other but just know that is out of love.  It has been amazing watching you grow up to the man you are today.  Thank you for stepping in and playing a role in Mattie’s life, watching y’all two at the wedding brought more love to my heart than you can ever imagine.  It brings tears to my eyes writing about it now.  So thank you.

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This past weekend I was able to rejuvenate my love for CattleWomen.  We spent the weekend at our annual Women In Ranching program and it was a blast.  Being surrounded by women with like minds is an incredible thing.  I was able to sit and watch ladies of all experience levels come together to make a weekend successful.  The one thing I loved most about all this is the friendships I have made and continue to make.  There were times in these last few months that have been pretty lonely, not really quite sure I had any friends at some points, but these ladies have changed that.  It is not often that you can get a bunch of ladies in a room together and have everyone get along.  My favorite moment of the whole weekend was Saturday evening, killing some time before dinner.  I sat down at a table with two other ladies and within 10 minutes, not only was our table full, we had a circle of probably almost 15 ladies, talking, sharing stories, and getting to know one another.  This event has put me on fire and I can not wait to finalize the Fall Tour and get the ladies on board.

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There have been some struggles the past few months but everyone has struggled in one way or another, it is how you look at those struggles that changes your way of thinking.  Keep pushing forward to be the best you can be. Keep growing in your faith and as always share some love, we could all use a little more love.