Things I wish I knew in my Twenties ….

The past few days I have been seeing posts that say – People in your thirties, what advise do you have to give to the people in their twenties? While I did comment on some of them, I did want to share more than just one tip. So why not do what I do best and write, it is my cure for everything. Check out my Top 5 tips I wish I knew or had done in my twenties

  1. You don’t have to go to College right away or even at all.

While this is totally against what most people say and think, I am living proof that sometimes it is okay to wait to go to college. My advice would be to go see the world. Move out of your home town. Work. Travel and figure out what you want to do in life, without the influence of other people. There is a huge world out there, explore it. You never know what you will fall in love with. On top of that, if you do go back to college at an older age, you will appreciate everything you learn so much more! Trust me, this I know for a fact.

2. Do what makes you happy regardless of what society, your parents, your friends, or even your neighbors think.

You only have one life. Do not waste it trying to make someone else happy or doing something for someone else.  For so long I tried to “fit in” with what I thought was the right thing that I should be doing. Which in turn pushed aside what I really wanted to do, what my passions were.   You are your own person. Your thoughts, your feelings, your passions are yours and no one else’s. Do not let anyone take those away from you. Pursue those passions with a fire. Do things you love.

3. Save some money from every check

I waited tables and was a bartender for almost 12 years of my life and I have nothing to show for it except some great customer service skills and I know how to make a drink or two. Seriously though, regardless of how much money you make, make sure you save some of it. Save some from every paycheck or every shift you work, even if it is only $5. After 20 shifts you will have $100. Depending on how many shifts a week, that’s roughly $100 a month you are saving. Now just think, if I had done that, I would have over 14 thousand dollars in the bank not including interest. If you have a full-time job, fantastic. Make sure you set up your 401K and at the very minimum put in what you need to get your company to match you.

4. It is okay to be alone

For some reason there is this huge expectation that we have to be married right out of college and have a baby the following year. I am here to tell you, it doesn’t have to be that way. Trust me, I would love to be married and have a family but I also want it to be with the right person. Don’t ever settle because you deserve the world. If your partner isn’t willing to do for you what you are willing to do for them, then maybe just maybe they aren’t the partner for you. It is okay to wait. It is okay to not get married in your twenties. It is more than acceptable to wait for the person that sets your soul on fire.

5. Be a nice human being

There were a lot of times in my twenties when I was not a very nice person, especially since I worked in a restaurant for all of them.  Be a nice person. Show compassion and love. Show grace. No one is perfect and everyone makes mistakes. That perfect family or life you see on social media isn’t real.  Everyone has their own troubles and struggles that you may know nothing about. Be nice and spread some love.

These may seem like small tips to some but sometimes it is the little things that matter the most.

Whatever you do in your twenties, be great doing it.

And as always, spread some love. We could all use a little more love.

XOXO

Casey

32 and Loving Life

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If you have read any of my past blogs or seen any of my social media accounts lately you will know that I am a huge proponent of mindset, growth, and stepping out of your comfort zone. I recently wrote about this amazing transition I have had in the last few months. While I know most of my family has noticed (I sure hope they have), I wasn’t quite sure how much y’all, the public, has noticed (I am pretty good at hiding my feelings….most of the time).

Rewind to this time exactly one year ago. I had Valentine’s Day, my brother’s wedding and my birthday all in a matter of 5 days. I bawled all 7 of those days. Yes. You read that right. I mean everyone needs a good cry now and then but I took it to the extreme.

  • Nobody likes to be single on Valentine’s Day. Okay, let’s back up here. The majority of the female population doesn’t like to be single on Valentine’s Day, even though they may not admit it. (Reminder – this is just my opinion). If I am wrong, great, but last year at this time, I know that I did not want to be single. It was another reminder that I was never going to find anybody, that I would never get married or have any more kids. It would just be me and my cows one day. Did I mention when my mind runs, it runs wild?!?

 

  • My brother’s wedding. I love my brother and his wife. They are great together, they love each other, and they are killing it at life. He is my little brother. I knew the day was coming but it came too quick for me. Let me remind you Valentine’s Day was two days before this wedding. In my mind, he was my baby brother, I was supposed to get married first. Then my mind (love when it does this, totally joking here) ran wild again. I was never going to find anyone, etc. etc… I can only imagine what my parents were thinking during those days, they are so amazing in all the support they give me.

 

  • My birthday. This amazing event (I mean how can it not be amazing, I was born on this day!) happened two days after my brother’s wedding. 31. I was officially into my thirties now. You know what I heard instead, my biological clock just ticking away. Then the flood of tears came.

 

Fast Forward to one year later.

I woke up on Valentine’s Day happy and excited about life. Side note here, Mattie snuck into my room in the middle of the night so I did wake up with some cuddles, my favorite. Seriously though, I am happy with where I am at, I am happy with being alone… okay maybe not ecstatic but I am okay with being alone. I am excited about my birthday, I can’t believe I just typed that but it’s true. My thirties have honestly been some of the best of my life. I am so excited to see what is in store this year. I will say that one year older for me is one year older for Mattie, which I am not too happy about but we will take it one day at a time.

As a society, I feel we put so much pressure on people. When they should get married, when they need to have kids, how Valentine’s Day should be spent showing someone how much you love them. When in reality, it is okay to go against the norm. It is okay to wait until you find the right guy or girl for you. Besides I have learned that you have to learn to love yourself first before you can make anyone else happy – true fact.

Just remember that everyone is at a different season in their life and God has an amazing plan for you. Yes, we wish we knew exactly what that plan was or I do at least but I don’t and neither do you. Instead, I am grateful that I am here at this time right now, getting to do the things I love. I am grateful I have an amazing daughter that loves me unconditionally. I am grateful for the amazing family I have. Shout out to both sets of my parents for making me feel loved on Valentine’s Day, love y’all! I am grateful for this season I am in, for I am constantly learning every day. Next time things aren’t going your way or you are down and out. Take out a pen and paper and write 100 things you are grateful for, yes 100. If it is really hard then take some time to stop and smell the roses. You will get a reminder of all the amazing things you have going on in your life.

As always spread some love

XOXO

Casey

To New Adventures and Lessons Learned

I have always wanted to be an author. Lately I have been thinking about what it would be like to be a NY Times Best Selling Author. How amazing would it be to have people not only buy your book, but read the words that you have written. To have people laughing and crying with you as you write page after page. I can almost feel that feeling, I can just imagine it. That imagination fuels fire to my dreams. One day I will be a NY Times Best-selling author.

It has been quite some time since I have written publically so I figured I should start out with a bang. Five life lessons I have learned in my short time (31 years) on Earth. I am very curious to see how many people can relate to this!

 

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You Can’t Change Someone

This is huge, for so long I thought that maybe if I was good enough or pour my whole heart and soul into a relationship that that person would really see how amazing I am. They would change their ways and be a better person. They would love everything about me, the good, the bad, the ugly and everything would be hunky dory. Wrong! People only change when they are ready to change and there is not much you can do to make it happen any faster, if it ever happens at all. If you are not being treated right, fix your crown and move on.

No One Will Hand You Your Dreams on a Silver Platter

I grew up in the Disney Era, with the Little Mermaid and Cinderella. For a long time I waited for my knight in shining armor to swoop in and give me the world. Don’t get me wrong, I worked but I was waiting for someone to fulfill my dreams for me. That, my friends, doesn’t happen. You may find the perfect person to be there and support you while you achieve your dreams but no one is going to hand them to you. If you happen to find someone that will just hand them to you then you won’t get the satisfaction of ever really achieving your dreams. If you are really wanting to accomplish your goals, put your head down and hustle hard. Hustle harder than you have ever hustled before. You will get there before you know it.

Being a People Pleaser Gets You No Where

Okay, before everyone jumps on me. Yes, you can get somewhere by being a people pleaser, however, you will never achieve what you are fully capable of achieving. I am/was a people pleaser. It is something that I have had to work really hard at changing. You will never ever and I repeat NEVER EVER make everyone happy. So why try? There will always be someone who doesn’t agree with what you say or just doesn’t like you. That my friends is A OKAY. Focus on your dreams and aspirations and let the other people worry about themselves.

You Can Do Anything You Put Your Mind To – With A Little Hard Work

Okay, let’s be a little realistic here. I remember being little and being told you can be anything you want to be. While that may be true, it takes a lot of hard work to be anything you want to be. Hard work requires growth, which requires stepping out of your comfort zone, which makes accomplishing those dreams a little easier. For example, I sell makeup as a side hustle. Me! The girl that hardly ever wore makeup, the girl that made her friends do her makeup if they were going out, the girl that used to wear gold, dusty eyeshadow for crying out loud! Yes, I still have pictures to prove it. I am that girl but guess what, I am loving the skin I am in now. I knew I wanted something more for Mattie and I and this was a way for me to achieve that. So I joined a company and haven’t looked back. It hasn’t been easy but it has been worth it!

Be Your Own Unique Self

This, this right here hits home so hard for me. I look back to those awkward teenage years until now and I see so many different people that I tried to be to fit in or be liked. It really makes me sad. There is only one you, God made you to shine just being yourself, so do that. The last two years have been some of the best of my life. I have finally started to figure out who I am. Been letting my inner girl shine. The last two years have also been full of huge lessons for me. All I know is that my confidence is building and I am beginning to step more and more out of my comfort zone! I cannot wait for this next year to see what will happen. Just remember to be yourself, the people that matter won’t mind and the ones that mind don’t matter.

As always spread some love.

XOXO

Casey

Weddings, CattleWomen and More

It is been a while since I have put pen to paper but this has given me the opportunity to think through a lot of things.  Sometimes taking that step back from a situation helps clear our heads and enables us to look at things from a different viewpoint.

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There have been a lot of beautiful things that have happened lately. Roughly a month ago, I was able to witness my brother say I do to his new wife.  The place was fantastic and the wedding was great, however, my favorite part was watching both of them share their vows for each other.  You could honestly see the love they had for each other beaming out of them.   To love someone that deeply has to be a feeling that is out of this world.  I know I am a little late on this but I had to share it.  To my brother, if you are reading this, I hope that you know how incredibly proud I am of you.  You amaze me every day with your selflessness to serve.  I look you up to you in so many ways.  I know most of the time we spend together we normally end up picking on each other but just know that is out of love.  It has been amazing watching you grow up to the man you are today.  Thank you for stepping in and playing a role in Mattie’s life, watching y’all two at the wedding brought more love to my heart than you can ever imagine.  It brings tears to my eyes writing about it now.  So thank you.

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This past weekend I was able to rejuvenate my love for CattleWomen.  We spent the weekend at our annual Women In Ranching program and it was a blast.  Being surrounded by women with like minds is an incredible thing.  I was able to sit and watch ladies of all experience levels come together to make a weekend successful.  The one thing I loved most about all this is the friendships I have made and continue to make.  There were times in these last few months that have been pretty lonely, not really quite sure I had any friends at some points, but these ladies have changed that.  It is not often that you can get a bunch of ladies in a room together and have everyone get along.  My favorite moment of the whole weekend was Saturday evening, killing some time before dinner.  I sat down at a table with two other ladies and within 10 minutes, not only was our table full, we had a circle of probably almost 15 ladies, talking, sharing stories, and getting to know one another.  This event has put me on fire and I can not wait to finalize the Fall Tour and get the ladies on board.

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There have been some struggles the past few months but everyone has struggled in one way or another, it is how you look at those struggles that changes your way of thinking.  Keep pushing forward to be the best you can be. Keep growing in your faith and as always share some love, we could all use a little more love.

“I will Soar on Wings like Eagles..”

As I was driving home last night, this topic was really weighing on my heart and mind and I felt I needed to share.  Yesterday was a good day.  No, yesterday was a great day.  Texas CattleWomen had an informational session in Decatur and the best possible outcome happened that could have, we got a new local started.  How can all these great things be happening but yet it feels as if I am not doing enough or the results that I am getting are not good enough.

Over the past couple of weeks, I have really noticed how much and how bad negative thoughts can affect someone.  Trust me, I get them all the time and normally always assume the worst.  Why, why do we do that?  I can work my tail off at something and nail it and get told that what I did was great and yet I am still so unsure.  It is crazy how the mind works, why some people feel certain ways and others can’t.  How self-confidence can make or break you.  How it can be so hard to genuinely accept that – Hey! You are doing a dang good job!

Just know that You are enough! When you get that compliment, say thank you and enjoy it.  Relish in it and give yourself a pat on the back.  Believe in yourself as much as other people do – this is HUGE, something I struggle with a lot.  It is okay to have bad days, everyone has bad days, but get up, dust yourself off and make tomorrow better. No one is perfect, no one.  Smile, you never know who is watching or wanting to be just like you.

Find things that make you happy and do them.  Learn to be you and don’t let anyone take that away from you.  And sometimes you just need a three-hour jam session of some Jesus music.  This next week I challenge you to do something out of the norm, whether that be saying hello to someone on the street, trying some new food, or even picking up a new hobby. Have an amazing week and as always share some love, we could all use some more love.

 

 

Sliding into 2019

2019 started with my foot on the gas pedal!  A quiet New Year’s Eve evening with Mattie popping fireworks with my dad and me, which has turned into a tradition, has turned into a non-stop roller coaster from Mattie’s extracurricular activities to starting a new job to my CattleWomen to school starting.  My life has been busy busy busy but I wouldn’t have it any other way!

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I am definitely excited to see what is in store for 2019.  2018 was amazing overall but I was glad to see it go.  A new year always means a new slate to me.  A new year to make a difference and to live life to the fullest. 2018 started off with a bang and slowly dwindled down so I can only imagine what 2019 has in store.  It is true, my thirties have already been better than my twenties and I am just getting started.

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It is crazy how your path can take you to different places, with different people, and you learn and become interested in different things.  I always knew that I had a creative side in me.  I mean, I did originally want to go to College for a photography degree. The more time I spend working the more and more I fall in love with it. I was sitting at my desk the other day working on a design for a new website and I thought to myself, I should have been a communication major or something equivalent.  I wish I would have gotten more experience in that field in school but one of my classes this semester is Ag Design so I am super excited about that.

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God continues to bless me every day and I am so thankful for all the wonderful opportunities that I have been given and my amazing parents for making those opportunities possible for me.

2019 is going to be a year of rebuilding for me, a year of growing up, a year of finding new hobbies and pursuing them, a year of traveling (gotta love my CattleWomen ladies), a year of making new memories and a year of cherishing everything and everyone around me.

Here is to 2019 and I hope your year is the best that is can possibly be!

As always share some love, we can always use some more love!

To My Heart – Mattie Moo

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This blog post has been weighing on my heart for some time now.  I have written it probably a 1,000 times in my head and it still isn’t and will never be perfect enough for you.  You were the game changer for me, the life changer, the, I wanted something more for you changer.  Words could never describe the feelings I have for you, but I will try. This is for you Mattie Moo.

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I remember it just like it was yesterday, the first time I felt you move.  At that moment things begin to change.  You were more than just a heartbeat, you were a real person.  From the first time I saw your squishy head fly past me to when we left the hospital, I knew it was going to be me and you kiddo and that it would always be me and you.

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It wasn’t always easy although you were an angel of a baby.  I was back to work before you could blink and you were off to daycare.  It was hard being without you the majority of the days and weekends but sometimes those were the sacrifices I had to make.  Sometimes you have to do what needs to be done and that included working.  I have to thank your grandparents (both sets) because, without them, we would be lost.

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I remember the first steps you took and when you finally decided to grow hair.  The thing I miss the most is holding and rocking you to sleep.  I still get snuggles for now, but I know those won’t last forever.  I made a big decision and we moved towns and I went back to school full time.  I know things for you can be different at times and I know you may not always understand but I hope one day you do.  The things I do, I do for you.  I want you to see the passion and desires I have to follow my dreams.  I want you to know that your dreams are possible and to never give up.

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You are the most loving, the kindest, and the most caring kid I know.  You have the sweetest soul and your love for Jesus, animals, and people shines through you.  Please don’t lose that.  Life is going to be tough but just know that you can make it through anything and I will be right there with you along the way.

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You never seem to amaze me with your infectious belly laugh and your toothless grin.  Keep being you Mattie and never lose that. I have heard that children in heaven actually pick their parents out before-hand.  If that is the case or if God chose me, I am so thankful for that.  You teach me things every day and we learn how to “tackle” life together.  I love you sweetheart and I always will.  Don’t lose your faith in God or me because together we can make it through anything.  You are about to turn another year older and get another year wiser, just know you will always be my baby.  I love you Mattie Moo.

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Cruising Through Life, One Life Lesson at A Time

The past couple of weeks, I have learned some life lessons.  Some I have known for a while but needed to hear again.  Some that are new but needed to be learned.  Some that are hard and while they may not be something I wanted to learn, I learned them anyway.

Slow down and take the time to enjoy the things around you.

Okay, we all know I have shared this plenty of times.  However, God sent me a reminder to slow down when I reached down to pick something up out of a bag and my back pretty much gave out.  Needless to say, two days in bed makes you realize that sometimes the things we think are so important at the time really are not that important.  I know we all have deadlines to meet, projects to turn in, work that needs to be done, but don’t forget to take some time for yourself.

Sometimes even when you love someone, the best thing to do is walk away.

                Relationships can be tough and when I say relationships, I mean all relationships.  The relationship with your siblings, your parents, your significant other, your friends and family.  I have learned that communication is key, but Trust, you can’t get anywhere without trust.  I know that in the grand scheme of things, relationships shouldn’t be hard. They should be fun and happy.  I mean you only get one life, right?  Sometimes, it doesn’t matter how much you care about someone, the only way to fix things is to walk away, pray, and let the Big Man upstairs do his thing.

Do whatever it is that brings joy into your life.

                I know that if I am not happy, then it not only affects everything else going on in my life but Mattie’s too.  Life is too short to be unhappy all the time.  Be joyful.  Find your purpose, find something that brings you joy and do that.  Yes, there are going to be people that may not quite understand but if they are that important to you, they will stay around regardless.

Always have a good pair of mud boots to work in

                You never know when your phone might ring and you may get that chance to go work cattle or go hunting.   Always make sure you have a good pair of “work” boots ready for any occasion.  I failed at this last weekend, but my sweet friend helped me out and I survived the day.  It was my first time actually getting out there and working cattle and I must say, I just fell in love even more.

Make sure you have at least one goal in life and work towards that goal

                Sometimes we get lost in the hustle and bustle and lose sight of what we are really working for.  Make a goal, even if it is only one and work towards that goal.  My big-time goal, that I wake up every morning and think about? I want a house on a hill with a wrap around porch so I can sit out and watch my cattle grazing. I realized that I am not getting any younger, after my weekly chiropractor visits, and I need to start working harder towards this goal.  On a positive note, I only have about a year left of graduate school and most of all my classes are online, so if you are in the market for a full-time employee, let me know!

We all know that life can be hard at times, just learn to look at all the positive things and suddenly life may not really seem that hard.

As always share some love, we could all use a little more love.

Texas CattleWomen

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This past weekend something spectacular happened.  I received an award that I held in high regard.  Texas CattleWomen of the Year.  To make the event even more special, one of my best friends was able to present this award to me.   Not only has she taken me under her wing, but she has become more like family to me.  I am so thankful for her and will forever be grateful for the time she has given me.

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I fumbled through a speech at the presentation of the award but I can express my feelings through my writings better.  Receiving this award was one of the greatest experiences that I have had with CattleWomen.  It is nice to get recognized and know that the work that you are putting in gets noticed.  I know that sometimes I can be a little impatient when it comes to things.  I, however, have so much passion, love, and drive for CattleWomen, that I want it to be the best it can be.  I hope that everyone knows that all the work I do is for the good of the organization.

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CatttleWomen is not just an organization to me, it is another family.  I honestly do not know where I would be without CattleWomen.  I joined this organization at a time when I was discovering myself.  This organization let me belong regardless of my background, my views, and my past.  From day 1, I have felt nothing but love from the women of this organization.  It is an amazing feeling to know that you have family across the state of Texas to call upon.

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I am beyond excited about the future of the organization.  I feel great things are in the work for us.  Thank you again for all the people that have a passion for the organization and want it to succeed.  Thank you to my family who helps me out so that I can do the things that I love.  Find your drive and your passion.  Find what brings you joy, explore it, and do everything in your power to not lose it.  You only have one life, make the most of it.  CattleWomen, you will always have my heart.

As always, share some love, we could all use a little more love.

Cattle, Cattle and More Cattle

There are no words to describe our first Women In Ranching Fall Tour.  My heart is full of joy and happiness. You know when you go to church and you come out feeling high on Jesus, or that feeling you get when you get back from a church retreat? On fire for Jesus! Well, after this event, I am on fire for BEEF!   Even though there were some things we had originally planned that fell through, I believe the event was a success.

43241591_1872149859571776_6003269557068759040_nWe started out in good ole’ Decatur Texas.  We left the infamous NRS store and made our way for the Bradley 3 Ranch.  I have to say; the good Lord was on our side as the forecasted rain held off and we were able to get to tour the ranch.  Bradley 3 Ranch sells Angus cattle and even a few Charolais.  During the tour, we even had the pleasure of getting to hear Minnie Lou Bradley speak.  She was the sweetest lady with a great sense of humor!

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Lakeview, Texas.  If you have never been there, you need to go.  Only make sure you go on a Saturday evening between 5-9.  There is a restaurant called Lakeview Grill.  My mouth is watering thinking about the superb meal they provided for us.  There is no menu.  They serve a salad bar, beans, a ribeye, and potatoes.  It is worth the drive no matter where you live and the history of the place just tops it off.  We made our way to Amarillo as we stopped there for the night.  Sunday morning started out with a nasty drizzling rain.  However, as we made our way to Channing, the drizzle stopped and we were able to enjoy the tour of the Barber Ranch.  Mary Barber got on the bus and we were able to actually take the bus and drive through the ranch.  We were able to get out and see some Hereford’s and Mini Hereford’s before the rain came.  The trip began to wind down as we made our way to our last stop.  The Pullen-Mayfield Ranch.  The hospitality was phenomenal.  The information that I was able to learn over the weekend was something that can’t be taught in the classroom.

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I am looking forward to this coming weekend, Texas CattleWomen Fall Convention at the Texas Beef Council Offices!

On a side note, the tooth fairy came to visit our house while I was gone.  My baby isn’t so much of a baby anymore!

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As always share some love, the world could always use a little more love!