Law of Attraction and Manifesting

I was listening to this podcast the other day and it hit home for me. I felt the need to share, just in case someone else needs to hear this as well. The Rachel Hollis Podcast – Episode 185

Law of Attraction vs. Manifesting. Most people have heard of the Law of Attraction before and if you haven’t, then it is pretty simple. You attract what you want. Positive thoughts bring positivity into your life. On the other end, the more negative thoughts you have, the more negativity you bring into your life. She went on to explain that manifesting is attracting what you are. There is one key component that needs to be included here, you have to do the work. Just because you are manifesting a greater life, doesn’t mean that it will just appear. I am certain if that were the case, there would be more people better off than they are now.

One thing that was discussed in the podcast was your energy. What kind of energy do you show up with every day? Now we aren’t talking about how tired you are or how much physical energy you have. We are talking about the energy you give, the vibes you put out. If you are giving out frustrated, depressed, and negative feeling vibes, guess what? That is exactly what you are going to get back. If you are full of gratitude and positivity and just happy with life, you guessed it. You are going to get that in return. You attract other people who are at your same energy level.

The podcast went a little deeper discussing how bad a scarcity mindset can affect you. When things don’t seem to be going right, it seems more things tend to go wrong. When things are rock-n-rolling, you bet, everything seems to be working well. Just take a moment to remember how much your mindset can affect you.

My favorite part of the podcast was towards the very end. She gave the reminder of watching what you say, think, and write down because words have power. “At any given moment you are creating your reality or destroying your possibility based on your thoughts alone.” I suggest you re-read that. Now I suggest that you sit in it and really think about it. Words have the biggest impact on you. What are you telling yourself today?

For a deeper dive be sure to check out the podcast, episode 185

As always share some love, we could all use a little more love.

XOXOXO

Casey

The 5 Love Languages

Love Languages. I have read some on this concept before and am finishing up a book on Love Languages of Children. I am very fascinated by this concept. It is intriguing how different people need or prefer different ways of being loved, how filling someone’s love tank can change their whole demeanor. I don’t think you can fully understand the effects of giving someone love in their preferred way until you do it. I have listened to other people talk before and it seems that a lot of times if we can just give a little of what our partner needs, things would be a lot better for everyone involved.

If you are not familiar with The 5 Love Languages, we are going to jump into them right now.

  1. Physical Touch – you feel more loved when you have physical contact, whether that is hugs, or a hand being held, or a hand on your lower back as you are being led into a room. These continuous acts fill up your love tank.
  1. Words of Affirmation – you love hearing words of affection, and endearment, words of praise and encouragement. Hearing all these helps keep your love tank full.
  1. Quality Time – you prefer to spend one on one time with that special someone. While it doesn’t matter what you are doing, the fact that you are spending the time together is what keeps your love tank full
  1. Gifts – gift giving and gift receiving are very important to you, as these things help fill your love tank.
  1. Acts of Service – your love tank fills when the people around you do things to help you out. Something as simple as washing the dishes or folding clothes would be an act of service

So, what is your love language? You can take the test here to find out – https://www.5lovelanguages.com/ – it is very short and easy to get through.

One of the interesting things that I have learned, is that when children are growing up, they will need all five love languages to fill their tank. They will express a primary one but as they get older that primary one could potentially change too. The children’s book is very enlightening, and I highly recommend reading it. That book is called: The 5 Love Languages of Children.

Whatever you decide to do, learning how to spread more love and help our partners and children feel more loved is the ultimate goal. The world needs more love!

Have any books you have been itching to read? Let me know, I would love to add them to my list or do a book review on them!

XOXOXO

Casey

When Doubt Hits… Know YOU are Worth it!

Do you ever find yourself wondering why you keep pushing for more? Why you keep going above and beyond because it doesn’t seem like it is going anywhere? If all the time you are investing into something is really worth it?

This past week, I was having some heavy doubt. I was getting ready for a Rustic Pony Show. As I was loading up the trailer, the first thought came into my head, is this really worth it? I was able to combat that negative thought and the next day went to work before I left for the show. That day was TOUGH. My debit card number got hacked, it was the day before a Holiday weekend. I had to cancel my card, drive over four hours away to a show with only the cash in my wallet…which wasn’t much.

That whole day, I spent thinking is this worth it? Is all this time away from my family worth it? Is all this money I have invested into this dream of mine worth it? How long do I pursue this before I just give up? Am I even making any progress? Is this the thing I am supposed to actually be doing?

Let me tell you, once I go down a rabbit hole. I go down a rabbit hole. So there I was Friday feeling sorry for myself, sales weren’t going very good either so it only intensified my feelings. I finally reached out to my go-to pal. They laid it out in the simplest terms. You are trying to better yourself, of course it’s worth it.

Let me expand on that just a little bit. If trying to better your life and your family’s life was easy, everyone would do it. It is hard and takes hard work. It takes failing, it takes losing, and it takes grit. It takes waking up each morning and doing something to get towards your goals. It will take hard work, tears, pushing beyond your limits, and possibly more tears. But guess what? It is worth it. Your dreams are worth it, your family is worth it. YOU are worth it.

When that doubt comes around, just push through and remember that everything you are working for is worth it.  

Just one way to handle those negative emotions

Last blog, I touched on how hard this year has been for me mentally. As I was driving last week, I really felt the need to unpack that a little more in hopes that something I am actively going through may help someone else. The past year and a half I have been on this growth mission, becoming a better version of myself, becoming the person I am meant to be. For the past six months, the mental challenge has been the hardest.

No matter how fast you are growing, stepping out of your comfort zone, learning new things, taking on new challenges, your mental state of mind must grow too. I realized these past few months how hard it is to overcome things mentally. When you have been in the negative space for so long, it is really a challenge every day to stay in the positive state.

I am fortunate to have some solid people in my life. They are supportive, they encourage me, they are right there with me on all the crazy wild ideas I have….but they also bring me back to Earth when I need it. They let me know when I need to stop and think, they let me know that I am not always right about everything, and most importantly they let me know all this in a nice kind manner. However, there are a lot of times when something doesn’t go the way I think it should. Negative emotions and thoughts immediately enter my mind. The first thing I think, they don’t like me anymore. They aren’t going to be there anymore; they don’t want to deal with me anymore.

Never once have my people even hinted at this happening, but after years and years of a negative mindset and mental abuse, these thoughts are my first initial reactions. How do you overcome that? All I can tell you is that every day is a new day to overcome the negative mindset. When those bad boys pop into my head, I literally put them in a box and say to myself, “this isn’t true, my people love me”, and push the thought out of my head. I then begin to focus my mind on the next task at hand. Will I ever be able to kick the old habit of negative thoughts? Only time will tell.

I just wanted you to know that if you are struggling mentally, you are not alone. Don’t give up though, keep tackling every day as a new day and you will be amazed at the wonderful things that come your way.

Share some love, we could all use a little more love

XOXOXO

Casey

Sometimes A Little Help is All You Need

We all need help at some point in our lives, whether that be financial help, moving help, fixing appliances help, and the list goes on. I think sometimes we don’t like to admit that we need help.

This blog will probably be a little touchy for some but I want to break the mold around therapy. For the past 4 years or so I have gone to therapy off and on, sometimes weekly appointments were needed other times it was whenever I felt it was needed. I think one of the harder things about therapy is finding the right therapist and you being ready to to talk. When the two align, it is a beautiful thing. There is something uplifting about being able to sit and talk to someone about what is going on in your mind without repercussions or worrying if they are going to tell your dear secret.

For most people, when we want to vent about anything, we tend to vent to our friends. While this can be okay for some things, sometimes our venting can put our friends in uncomfortable situations. It can cause rifts in your friendships. It can even leave your friends judging other people without potentially knowing the whole story to things. Do your people a favor and leave them out of the venting, go talk to a therapist/counselor instead.

For me, therapy has always been a way of me trying to understand something or potentially understanding someone else’s point of you. When you have an unbiased person talking to you about different examples or a potential point of view about why something is happening, you tend to listen better. Recently, I have become very interested in learning more about why I react the way I do, or why I get overly emotional at the drop of a hat. The human brain is a very intriguing thing and learning how I can show up better in my relationships is always a beautiful thing.

If you have never thought about therapy before, you should let the thought cross your mind. If you have a thought about it but never taken action, try it. It may take a couple therapist to find “the one” but I can promise you it’s worth it.

As always share some love, we could all use a little more love.

XOXO

Casey

More Conversations and Less Confrontations

This is not intended to be a political blog but I am sure it will be looked at that way. I have been watching these last few months, the posts on social media, the media on television, and even the radio stations, all bashing each side over and over again. The thing that I find so concerning in all of this is that there is no talking to one another to actually discover what the differences are. People don’t sit down and have conversations anymore.

What happened to understanding each other? What happened to agreeing to disagree? What happened to having your own viewpoint and yet still being able to get along with other people in the world who don’t have the same viewpoint as you?

I tend to lean to social media/ the internet as some of the cause of this. People get online and post their opinions, which this is perfectly fine. However, when people comment with a difference of opinion, there is no discussion. It goes straight to a full blown drawn out argument or simply getting blocked. I do believe that reading a text is completely different than hearing someone say the exact words to you. Unless you know the person, you have no idea how that “text” is coming across and I would say 9 out of 10 times, that “text” gets misconstrued in the negative way. I also believe that social media/ the internet have made having an actual face to face conversation a lot harder. It is so much easier to be absorbed online and not get out and meet people.

I do want to say that there will probably always be people that are intentionally mean online. That is just some people’s nature, that doesn’t mean you need to reciprocate their behavior. Next time someone comments on your post, how about you ask for an explanation or simply say why do you feel that way? Before you share that post, how about you make sure the information is accurate before you spread it. Before you start bad mouthing the other party and judging people who you don’t even know, how about you take the time to sit down and do the research and come up with your own answers, for your own opinion, don’t let the media just feed you information.

This country needs more love right now than ever before. We need to love our neighbors regardless of how we feel about them. We need to do as much good as possible. Why spend your days on Earth hating and fighting each other? The more negativity you have in your life and mindset, the more problems you are attracting to yourself. My friends, it is okay to disagree with someone and still have them as your friend, family, and neighbor. It is okay to disagree with someone and still show them kindness. We were all made uniquely, we all have different opinions on many things. Don’t let those differences cost you friends and family.

As always share some love, we could all use a little more love.

XOXO

Casey

The Power of Introverts

For most of my childhood, I seemed like an outgoing person. I was always involved in some kind of sports activity, normally multiple at one time. I also played the piano and was an avid reader. I have always loved to write as well. The older I got, the more competitive I got in sports. I was a fairly smart kid, never really having to study extra hard after school unless it came to Math. I also grew a passion for photography. Did I mention that I was the starting pitcher for our high school softball team when I was a freshman?

After high school and into College (which would turn into long drawn out years of College at all different ages experience) I was a bartender at a restaurant, who went out all the time, who was surrounded by her friends all the time, whose creative side (reading, writing, and photography) seemed to die.

I tell you all these things because I have recently come to learn that I am actually an introverted person. I enjoy my quiet time. I enjoy my alone time, I love reading. I love writing and being in my head, I have so many thoughts that sometimes I have to get them down on paper or else I won’t stop thinking about them. I find this very fascinating as I look back on my younger years and see some of the same qualities but at times almost the opposite of how I am now.

I recently read – “Quiet, The Power of Introverts in a World That Can’t Stop talking.” – By Susan Cain. This book blew my mind and explained a lot of questions that I had. That even being an introvert, if you have a true passion about something you will display extrovert qualities because you are doing the thing you love. That your environment can play a part in displaying different qualities as well. For so long, I felt different than some people. I know a lot of people but I have a select few really good friends and honestly, I have those friends still because THEY reach out and communicate with me. I am happy being able to read a book all day yet I long for companionship without any expectations. Me, ten years ago would have been out multiple times a week. Me now, dreads even thinking about going to the grocery store, but yet, I can stand and work a booth for multiple days at a time selling some of my favorite shirts.

If you have ever been a little bit curious about the introvert/extrovert relationship you should definitely pick us this book. There is advice for introverts on how to learn how to be more vocal. There is advice for extroverts on how to maybe listen a little bit longer. There is advice for people in relationships who are introverts/extroverts. Did you know that a disagreement may turn into a huge fight because you don’t understand the personality of your partner? Imagine how happier homes could potentially be if we actually understood how the other processed information. Have a child that has a different personality than you? This book will help with that too. Even if you don’t have a close relationship or a child, reading the book will definitely help put a different perspective on the people you work with. Imagine the greatness that could arise if we all understood each other a little better.

As always share some love, we could all use a little more love

XOXO

Casey

When Life Gets Tough, Dig Deep and Find Your People

This past week was a tough one for me. Sometimes, it does not matter how positive of a person you are, there are just bad days. It doesn’t matter how nice you are or how much you give or how much you read or listen to your podcasts, you still have those bad days. If you are not careful those bad days can string together and become a bad week. Those things that you usually brush off your shoulders, start to feel a little heavier and it begins to seem like the slightest thing throws you off balance. Then it seems to be one thing after another until you find yourself crying your eyes out over things that are out of your control. To top it off, you can barely move most days because the chiropractor went to work on your neck and the pain just moved down to your back instead. To end the week, you find yourself laying on the floor unable to sleep and just waiting for tomorrow to start. If this is you, YOU ARE NOT ALONE.

Like I said this past week was a rough one. No matter how bad your week gets, just know there is something better coming. Know that no matter how bad it gets, you are amazing and you are doing one heck of a job. Know that these hard times shall pass. And find you a good friend. One of those friends that you can call up at any hour and talk too. One of those friends that will tell you when you are over reacting. One of those friends that will tell you to stop being sooo dramatic, that it isn’t the end of the world. One of those friends that will have your back through thick and thin. This could be your spouse, your lover, your friend, or maybe even your mother. Whoever they are, keep them close and then thank them for always being there for you when you decide to go off the rocker from time to time. Shout out to my person for always being there to snap me out of it.

Be sure to take a moment and acknowledge everything you have accomplished. Pat yourself on the back for how far you have come. Take an evening to yourself to celebrate YOU! The to-do list will always be there tomorrow, your self-care SHOULD always come first! Keep Shining!

As always, share some love, we could all use a little more love!

XOXOXO

Casey

The Holidays Can be So Exhausting….

This will probably get me labeled a scrooge…. but I will survive. The past few years my joy for the Holidays has dwindled. Now, don’t get me wrong. I love watching Mattie open her presents and seeing the excitement she has on her face when she gets all the new, fun, and exciting things. However, that excitement usually dies down about fifteen minutes later when it is rush rush rush to the next place.

You see, my parents have been separated since before I can remember. My Holidays normally consist of trying to hit 4 or 5 different places, sometimes in the same days or within a two day period. While, it is nice to be able to see all of your family, sometimes it can be overwhelming. Sometimes, I just wish Mattie and I could wake up Christmas morning in our matching pjs and not go anywhere. Unwrap presents, make hot cocoa, play with all the toys, and have a day of relaxation. To make this happen, you either have to 1. Plan Christmas with other people on different days or 2. Make the tough decision to maybe miss some other Family Christmas’s you are supposed to attend. Do you rock the boat or not? In my mind, you have to do what’s best for your family. Meaning, your own little family.

What does your family do for the holidays? Do you travel from place to place or stay home?

Besides the hustle and bustle of the Holidays another thing that has put a sour taste in my mouth is all the expensive presents that are needed to be bought. Adulting is hard! I feel like every year there is more and more pressure to buy the latest gadgets, get the best gifts, and give to all your family. The consequence of that… your pocket book is empty or negative if you used credit cards to buy your presents. Sometimes I feel like we forget the real reason for the Season. We are so busy buying presents or driving down the road that we don’t take time to really remember what that day is all about.

Whatever your Christmas plans consist of, I hope you and yours have a very Merry Christmas! I hope your Holidays are filled with lots of love, family, and good food. As far as our plans, we shall see what happens, I do know that matching pjs will be involved! 

Share some love, we could all use a little more love

XOXOXO

Casey

Sometimes You Just Need to Wet a Line…

Have you ever wondered what would happen if you just took a break? If you took all the deadlines you needed to hit, all the extra work that was required of you, all the “I need this now” and wrapped it up into a pretty little bow and said I’ll see you Monday.

Would the world end? No, definitely not. Would everything fall apart? Ehh, most likely not! Would the work still be there on Monday? Why, yes it would!

We are in a time right now where everyone demands that “their” thing be done right then and there. We want our stuff now regardless of the cost/toll it might take on other people. We are so used to having instant gratification that when something doesn’t happen right away, we seem to lose interest. Sometimes, we just need to take a step back, take a break, and learn to live again.

For me, that living again was night fishing off a dock in Matagorda this past weekend. It was fishing with my dad and bringing back all the memories of when we would do the same exact thing when I was little. We would fish “all night”, it sure felt like all night to a kiddo, get some rest and do it all over again the next day. It was fishing with my daughter, even though she may not have been as patient with the fish as I was. It was creating new memories, like seeing a rattle snake roll up on you from the dock next door and scare the bejeezus out of you. Side note here, did you know that rattle snakes can swim? I am from Texas, we are always taught to watch out for snakes, watch where you step etc. etc. I have seen pictures of people fishing in boats and have snakes swim towards them, however having it happen in person, I was not ready for! Let’s just say, I high tailed it inside and my fishing for that night was over, but not before I got a picture!

By taking that much needed break over the weekend, I was able to come home with a creative and flowing mind, ready to knock out some content. When things get hard, when you feel the stress coming on, sometimes the best solution is to stop and just have a moment. You will be surprised at the amazing things that will happen when you stop to smell the roses.

As always, share some love, we could all use a little more love!

XOXOXO

Casey