Sometimes A Little Help is All You Need

We all need help at some point in our lives, whether that be financial help, moving help, fixing appliances help, and the list goes on. I think sometimes we don’t like to admit that we need help.

This blog will probably be a little touchy for some but I want to break the mold around therapy. For the past 4 years or so I have gone to therapy off and on, sometimes weekly appointments were needed other times it was whenever I felt it was needed. I think one of the harder things about therapy is finding the right therapist and you being ready to to talk. When the two align, it is a beautiful thing. There is something uplifting about being able to sit and talk to someone about what is going on in your mind without repercussions or worrying if they are going to tell your dear secret.

For most people, when we want to vent about anything, we tend to vent to our friends. While this can be okay for some things, sometimes our venting can put our friends in uncomfortable situations. It can cause rifts in your friendships. It can even leave your friends judging other people without potentially knowing the whole story to things. Do your people a favor and leave them out of the venting, go talk to a therapist/counselor instead.

For me, therapy has always been a way of me trying to understand something or potentially understanding someone else’s point of you. When you have an unbiased person talking to you about different examples or a potential point of view about why something is happening, you tend to listen better. Recently, I have become very interested in learning more about why I react the way I do, or why I get overly emotional at the drop of a hat. The human brain is a very intriguing thing and learning how I can show up better in my relationships is always a beautiful thing.

If you have never thought about therapy before, you should let the thought cross your mind. If you have a thought about it but never taken action, try it. It may take a couple therapist to find “the one” but I can promise you it’s worth it.

As always share some love, we could all use a little more love.

XOXO

Casey

More Conversations and Less Confrontations

This is not intended to be a political blog but I am sure it will be looked at that way. I have been watching these last few months, the posts on social media, the media on television, and even the radio stations, all bashing each side over and over again. The thing that I find so concerning in all of this is that there is no talking to one another to actually discover what the differences are. People don’t sit down and have conversations anymore.

What happened to understanding each other? What happened to agreeing to disagree? What happened to having your own viewpoint and yet still being able to get along with other people in the world who don’t have the same viewpoint as you?

I tend to lean to social media/ the internet as some of the cause of this. People get online and post their opinions, which this is perfectly fine. However, when people comment with a difference of opinion, there is no discussion. It goes straight to a full blown drawn out argument or simply getting blocked. I do believe that reading a text is completely different than hearing someone say the exact words to you. Unless you know the person, you have no idea how that “text” is coming across and I would say 9 out of 10 times, that “text” gets misconstrued in the negative way. I also believe that social media/ the internet have made having an actual face to face conversation a lot harder. It is so much easier to be absorbed online and not get out and meet people.

I do want to say that there will probably always be people that are intentionally mean online. That is just some people’s nature, that doesn’t mean you need to reciprocate their behavior. Next time someone comments on your post, how about you ask for an explanation or simply say why do you feel that way? Before you share that post, how about you make sure the information is accurate before you spread it. Before you start bad mouthing the other party and judging people who you don’t even know, how about you take the time to sit down and do the research and come up with your own answers, for your own opinion, don’t let the media just feed you information.

This country needs more love right now than ever before. We need to love our neighbors regardless of how we feel about them. We need to do as much good as possible. Why spend your days on Earth hating and fighting each other? The more negativity you have in your life and mindset, the more problems you are attracting to yourself. My friends, it is okay to disagree with someone and still have them as your friend, family, and neighbor. It is okay to disagree with someone and still show them kindness. We were all made uniquely, we all have different opinions on many things. Don’t let those differences cost you friends and family.

As always share some love, we could all use a little more love.

XOXO

Casey

The Power of Introverts

For most of my childhood, I seemed like an outgoing person. I was always involved in some kind of sports activity, normally multiple at one time. I also played the piano and was an avid reader. I have always loved to write as well. The older I got, the more competitive I got in sports. I was a fairly smart kid, never really having to study extra hard after school unless it came to Math. I also grew a passion for photography. Did I mention that I was the starting pitcher for our high school softball team when I was a freshman?

After high school and into College (which would turn into long drawn out years of College at all different ages experience) I was a bartender at a restaurant, who went out all the time, who was surrounded by her friends all the time, whose creative side (reading, writing, and photography) seemed to die.

I tell you all these things because I have recently come to learn that I am actually an introverted person. I enjoy my quiet time. I enjoy my alone time, I love reading. I love writing and being in my head, I have so many thoughts that sometimes I have to get them down on paper or else I won’t stop thinking about them. I find this very fascinating as I look back on my younger years and see some of the same qualities but at times almost the opposite of how I am now.

I recently read – “Quiet, The Power of Introverts in a World That Can’t Stop talking.” – By Susan Cain. This book blew my mind and explained a lot of questions that I had. That even being an introvert, if you have a true passion about something you will display extrovert qualities because you are doing the thing you love. That your environment can play a part in displaying different qualities as well. For so long, I felt different than some people. I know a lot of people but I have a select few really good friends and honestly, I have those friends still because THEY reach out and communicate with me. I am happy being able to read a book all day yet I long for companionship without any expectations. Me, ten years ago would have been out multiple times a week. Me now, dreads even thinking about going to the grocery store, but yet, I can stand and work a booth for multiple days at a time selling some of my favorite shirts.

If you have ever been a little bit curious about the introvert/extrovert relationship you should definitely pick us this book. There is advice for introverts on how to learn how to be more vocal. There is advice for extroverts on how to maybe listen a little bit longer. There is advice for people in relationships who are introverts/extroverts. Did you know that a disagreement may turn into a huge fight because you don’t understand the personality of your partner? Imagine how happier homes could potentially be if we actually understood how the other processed information. Have a child that has a different personality than you? This book will help with that too. Even if you don’t have a close relationship or a child, reading the book will definitely help put a different perspective on the people you work with. Imagine the greatness that could arise if we all understood each other a little better.

As always share some love, we could all use a little more love

XOXO

Casey

When Life Gets Tough, Dig Deep and Find Your People

This past week was a tough one for me. Sometimes, it does not matter how positive of a person you are, there are just bad days. It doesn’t matter how nice you are or how much you give or how much you read or listen to your podcasts, you still have those bad days. If you are not careful those bad days can string together and become a bad week. Those things that you usually brush off your shoulders, start to feel a little heavier and it begins to seem like the slightest thing throws you off balance. Then it seems to be one thing after another until you find yourself crying your eyes out over things that are out of your control. To top it off, you can barely move most days because the chiropractor went to work on your neck and the pain just moved down to your back instead. To end the week, you find yourself laying on the floor unable to sleep and just waiting for tomorrow to start. If this is you, YOU ARE NOT ALONE.

Like I said this past week was a rough one. No matter how bad your week gets, just know there is something better coming. Know that no matter how bad it gets, you are amazing and you are doing one heck of a job. Know that these hard times shall pass. And find you a good friend. One of those friends that you can call up at any hour and talk too. One of those friends that will tell you when you are over reacting. One of those friends that will tell you to stop being sooo dramatic, that it isn’t the end of the world. One of those friends that will have your back through thick and thin. This could be your spouse, your lover, your friend, or maybe even your mother. Whoever they are, keep them close and then thank them for always being there for you when you decide to go off the rocker from time to time. Shout out to my person for always being there to snap me out of it.

Be sure to take a moment and acknowledge everything you have accomplished. Pat yourself on the back for how far you have come. Take an evening to yourself to celebrate YOU! The to-do list will always be there tomorrow, your self-care SHOULD always come first! Keep Shining!

As always, share some love, we could all use a little more love!

XOXOXO

Casey

The Holidays Can be So Exhausting….

This will probably get me labeled a scrooge…. but I will survive. The past few years my joy for the Holidays has dwindled. Now, don’t get me wrong. I love watching Mattie open her presents and seeing the excitement she has on her face when she gets all the new, fun, and exciting things. However, that excitement usually dies down about fifteen minutes later when it is rush rush rush to the next place.

You see, my parents have been separated since before I can remember. My Holidays normally consist of trying to hit 4 or 5 different places, sometimes in the same days or within a two day period. While, it is nice to be able to see all of your family, sometimes it can be overwhelming. Sometimes, I just wish Mattie and I could wake up Christmas morning in our matching pjs and not go anywhere. Unwrap presents, make hot cocoa, play with all the toys, and have a day of relaxation. To make this happen, you either have to 1. Plan Christmas with other people on different days or 2. Make the tough decision to maybe miss some other Family Christmas’s you are supposed to attend. Do you rock the boat or not? In my mind, you have to do what’s best for your family. Meaning, your own little family.

What does your family do for the holidays? Do you travel from place to place or stay home?

Besides the hustle and bustle of the Holidays another thing that has put a sour taste in my mouth is all the expensive presents that are needed to be bought. Adulting is hard! I feel like every year there is more and more pressure to buy the latest gadgets, get the best gifts, and give to all your family. The consequence of that… your pocket book is empty or negative if you used credit cards to buy your presents. Sometimes I feel like we forget the real reason for the Season. We are so busy buying presents or driving down the road that we don’t take time to really remember what that day is all about.

Whatever your Christmas plans consist of, I hope you and yours have a very Merry Christmas! I hope your Holidays are filled with lots of love, family, and good food. As far as our plans, we shall see what happens, I do know that matching pjs will be involved! 

Share some love, we could all use a little more love

XOXOXO

Casey

Sometimes You Just Need to Wet a Line…

Have you ever wondered what would happen if you just took a break? If you took all the deadlines you needed to hit, all the extra work that was required of you, all the “I need this now” and wrapped it up into a pretty little bow and said I’ll see you Monday.

Would the world end? No, definitely not. Would everything fall apart? Ehh, most likely not! Would the work still be there on Monday? Why, yes it would!

We are in a time right now where everyone demands that “their” thing be done right then and there. We want our stuff now regardless of the cost/toll it might take on other people. We are so used to having instant gratification that when something doesn’t happen right away, we seem to lose interest. Sometimes, we just need to take a step back, take a break, and learn to live again.

For me, that living again was night fishing off a dock in Matagorda this past weekend. It was fishing with my dad and bringing back all the memories of when we would do the same exact thing when I was little. We would fish “all night”, it sure felt like all night to a kiddo, get some rest and do it all over again the next day. It was fishing with my daughter, even though she may not have been as patient with the fish as I was. It was creating new memories, like seeing a rattle snake roll up on you from the dock next door and scare the bejeezus out of you. Side note here, did you know that rattle snakes can swim? I am from Texas, we are always taught to watch out for snakes, watch where you step etc. etc. I have seen pictures of people fishing in boats and have snakes swim towards them, however having it happen in person, I was not ready for! Let’s just say, I high tailed it inside and my fishing for that night was over, but not before I got a picture!

By taking that much needed break over the weekend, I was able to come home with a creative and flowing mind, ready to knock out some content. When things get hard, when you feel the stress coming on, sometimes the best solution is to stop and just have a moment. You will be surprised at the amazing things that will happen when you stop to smell the roses.

As always, share some love, we could all use a little more love!

XOXOXO

Casey

Things I wish I knew in my Twenties ….

The past few days I have been seeing posts that say – People in your thirties, what advise do you have to give to the people in their twenties? While I did comment on some of them, I did want to share more than just one tip. So why not do what I do best and write, it is my cure for everything. Check out my Top 5 tips I wish I knew or had done in my twenties

  1. You don’t have to go to College right away or even at all.

While this is totally against what most people say and think, I am living proof that sometimes it is okay to wait to go to college. My advice would be to go see the world. Move out of your home town. Work. Travel and figure out what you want to do in life, without the influence of other people. There is a huge world out there, explore it. You never know what you will fall in love with. On top of that, if you do go back to college at an older age, you will appreciate everything you learn so much more! Trust me, this I know for a fact.

2. Do what makes you happy regardless of what society, your parents, your friends, or even your neighbors think.

You only have one life. Do not waste it trying to make someone else happy or doing something for someone else.  For so long I tried to “fit in” with what I thought was the right thing that I should be doing. Which in turn pushed aside what I really wanted to do, what my passions were.   You are your own person. Your thoughts, your feelings, your passions are yours and no one else’s. Do not let anyone take those away from you. Pursue those passions with a fire. Do things you love.

3. Save some money from every check

I waited tables and was a bartender for almost 12 years of my life and I have nothing to show for it except some great customer service skills and I know how to make a drink or two. Seriously though, regardless of how much money you make, make sure you save some of it. Save some from every paycheck or every shift you work, even if it is only $5. After 20 shifts you will have $100. Depending on how many shifts a week, that’s roughly $100 a month you are saving. Now just think, if I had done that, I would have over 14 thousand dollars in the bank not including interest. If you have a full-time job, fantastic. Make sure you set up your 401K and at the very minimum put in what you need to get your company to match you.

4. It is okay to be alone

For some reason there is this huge expectation that we have to be married right out of college and have a baby the following year. I am here to tell you, it doesn’t have to be that way. Trust me, I would love to be married and have a family but I also want it to be with the right person. Don’t ever settle because you deserve the world. If your partner isn’t willing to do for you what you are willing to do for them, then maybe just maybe they aren’t the partner for you. It is okay to wait. It is okay to not get married in your twenties. It is more than acceptable to wait for the person that sets your soul on fire.

5. Be a nice human being

There were a lot of times in my twenties when I was not a very nice person, especially since I worked in a restaurant for all of them.  Be a nice person. Show compassion and love. Show grace. No one is perfect and everyone makes mistakes. That perfect family or life you see on social media isn’t real.  Everyone has their own troubles and struggles that you may know nothing about. Be nice and spread some love.

These may seem like small tips to some but sometimes it is the little things that matter the most.

Whatever you do in your twenties, be great doing it.

And as always, spread some love. We could all use a little more love.

XOXO

Casey

32 and Loving Life

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If you have read any of my past blogs or seen any of my social media accounts lately you will know that I am a huge proponent of mindset, growth, and stepping out of your comfort zone. I recently wrote about this amazing transition I have had in the last few months. While I know most of my family has noticed (I sure hope they have), I wasn’t quite sure how much y’all, the public, has noticed (I am pretty good at hiding my feelings….most of the time).

Rewind to this time exactly one year ago. I had Valentine’s Day, my brother’s wedding and my birthday all in a matter of 5 days. I bawled all 7 of those days. Yes. You read that right. I mean everyone needs a good cry now and then but I took it to the extreme.

  • Nobody likes to be single on Valentine’s Day. Okay, let’s back up here. The majority of the female population doesn’t like to be single on Valentine’s Day, even though they may not admit it. (Reminder – this is just my opinion). If I am wrong, great, but last year at this time, I know that I did not want to be single. It was another reminder that I was never going to find anybody, that I would never get married or have any more kids. It would just be me and my cows one day. Did I mention when my mind runs, it runs wild?!?

 

  • My brother’s wedding. I love my brother and his wife. They are great together, they love each other, and they are killing it at life. He is my little brother. I knew the day was coming but it came too quick for me. Let me remind you Valentine’s Day was two days before this wedding. In my mind, he was my baby brother, I was supposed to get married first. Then my mind (love when it does this, totally joking here) ran wild again. I was never going to find anyone, etc. etc… I can only imagine what my parents were thinking during those days, they are so amazing in all the support they give me.

 

  • My birthday. This amazing event (I mean how can it not be amazing, I was born on this day!) happened two days after my brother’s wedding. 31. I was officially into my thirties now. You know what I heard instead, my biological clock just ticking away. Then the flood of tears came.

 

Fast Forward to one year later.

I woke up on Valentine’s Day happy and excited about life. Side note here, Mattie snuck into my room in the middle of the night so I did wake up with some cuddles, my favorite. Seriously though, I am happy with where I am at, I am happy with being alone… okay maybe not ecstatic but I am okay with being alone. I am excited about my birthday, I can’t believe I just typed that but it’s true. My thirties have honestly been some of the best of my life. I am so excited to see what is in store this year. I will say that one year older for me is one year older for Mattie, which I am not too happy about but we will take it one day at a time.

As a society, I feel we put so much pressure on people. When they should get married, when they need to have kids, how Valentine’s Day should be spent showing someone how much you love them. When in reality, it is okay to go against the norm. It is okay to wait until you find the right guy or girl for you. Besides I have learned that you have to learn to love yourself first before you can make anyone else happy – true fact.

Just remember that everyone is at a different season in their life and God has an amazing plan for you. Yes, we wish we knew exactly what that plan was or I do at least but I don’t and neither do you. Instead, I am grateful that I am here at this time right now, getting to do the things I love. I am grateful I have an amazing daughter that loves me unconditionally. I am grateful for the amazing family I have. Shout out to both sets of my parents for making me feel loved on Valentine’s Day, love y’all! I am grateful for this season I am in, for I am constantly learning every day. Next time things aren’t going your way or you are down and out. Take out a pen and paper and write 100 things you are grateful for, yes 100. If it is really hard then take some time to stop and smell the roses. You will get a reminder of all the amazing things you have going on in your life.

As always spread some love

XOXO

Casey

To New Adventures and Lessons Learned

I have always wanted to be an author. Lately I have been thinking about what it would be like to be a NY Times Best Selling Author. How amazing would it be to have people not only buy your book, but read the words that you have written. To have people laughing and crying with you as you write page after page. I can almost feel that feeling, I can just imagine it. That imagination fuels fire to my dreams. One day I will be a NY Times Best-selling author.

It has been quite some time since I have written publically so I figured I should start out with a bang. Five life lessons I have learned in my short time (31 years) on Earth. I am very curious to see how many people can relate to this!

 

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You Can’t Change Someone

This is huge, for so long I thought that maybe if I was good enough or pour my whole heart and soul into a relationship that that person would really see how amazing I am. They would change their ways and be a better person. They would love everything about me, the good, the bad, the ugly and everything would be hunky dory. Wrong! People only change when they are ready to change and there is not much you can do to make it happen any faster, if it ever happens at all. If you are not being treated right, fix your crown and move on.

No One Will Hand You Your Dreams on a Silver Platter

I grew up in the Disney Era, with the Little Mermaid and Cinderella. For a long time I waited for my knight in shining armor to swoop in and give me the world. Don’t get me wrong, I worked but I was waiting for someone to fulfill my dreams for me. That, my friends, doesn’t happen. You may find the perfect person to be there and support you while you achieve your dreams but no one is going to hand them to you. If you happen to find someone that will just hand them to you then you won’t get the satisfaction of ever really achieving your dreams. If you are really wanting to accomplish your goals, put your head down and hustle hard. Hustle harder than you have ever hustled before. You will get there before you know it.

Being a People Pleaser Gets You No Where

Okay, before everyone jumps on me. Yes, you can get somewhere by being a people pleaser, however, you will never achieve what you are fully capable of achieving. I am/was a people pleaser. It is something that I have had to work really hard at changing. You will never ever and I repeat NEVER EVER make everyone happy. So why try? There will always be someone who doesn’t agree with what you say or just doesn’t like you. That my friends is A OKAY. Focus on your dreams and aspirations and let the other people worry about themselves.

You Can Do Anything You Put Your Mind To – With A Little Hard Work

Okay, let’s be a little realistic here. I remember being little and being told you can be anything you want to be. While that may be true, it takes a lot of hard work to be anything you want to be. Hard work requires growth, which requires stepping out of your comfort zone, which makes accomplishing those dreams a little easier. For example, I sell makeup as a side hustle. Me! The girl that hardly ever wore makeup, the girl that made her friends do her makeup if they were going out, the girl that used to wear gold, dusty eyeshadow for crying out loud! Yes, I still have pictures to prove it. I am that girl but guess what, I am loving the skin I am in now. I knew I wanted something more for Mattie and I and this was a way for me to achieve that. So I joined a company and haven’t looked back. It hasn’t been easy but it has been worth it!

Be Your Own Unique Self

This, this right here hits home so hard for me. I look back to those awkward teenage years until now and I see so many different people that I tried to be to fit in or be liked. It really makes me sad. There is only one you, God made you to shine just being yourself, so do that. The last two years have been some of the best of my life. I have finally started to figure out who I am. Been letting my inner girl shine. The last two years have also been full of huge lessons for me. All I know is that my confidence is building and I am beginning to step more and more out of my comfort zone! I cannot wait for this next year to see what will happen. Just remember to be yourself, the people that matter won’t mind and the ones that mind don’t matter.

As always spread some love.

XOXO

Casey

Weddings, CattleWomen and More

It is been a while since I have put pen to paper but this has given me the opportunity to think through a lot of things.  Sometimes taking that step back from a situation helps clear our heads and enables us to look at things from a different viewpoint.

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There have been a lot of beautiful things that have happened lately. Roughly a month ago, I was able to witness my brother say I do to his new wife.  The place was fantastic and the wedding was great, however, my favorite part was watching both of them share their vows for each other.  You could honestly see the love they had for each other beaming out of them.   To love someone that deeply has to be a feeling that is out of this world.  I know I am a little late on this but I had to share it.  To my brother, if you are reading this, I hope that you know how incredibly proud I am of you.  You amaze me every day with your selflessness to serve.  I look you up to you in so many ways.  I know most of the time we spend together we normally end up picking on each other but just know that is out of love.  It has been amazing watching you grow up to the man you are today.  Thank you for stepping in and playing a role in Mattie’s life, watching y’all two at the wedding brought more love to my heart than you can ever imagine.  It brings tears to my eyes writing about it now.  So thank you.

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This past weekend I was able to rejuvenate my love for CattleWomen.  We spent the weekend at our annual Women In Ranching program and it was a blast.  Being surrounded by women with like minds is an incredible thing.  I was able to sit and watch ladies of all experience levels come together to make a weekend successful.  The one thing I loved most about all this is the friendships I have made and continue to make.  There were times in these last few months that have been pretty lonely, not really quite sure I had any friends at some points, but these ladies have changed that.  It is not often that you can get a bunch of ladies in a room together and have everyone get along.  My favorite moment of the whole weekend was Saturday evening, killing some time before dinner.  I sat down at a table with two other ladies and within 10 minutes, not only was our table full, we had a circle of probably almost 15 ladies, talking, sharing stories, and getting to know one another.  This event has put me on fire and I can not wait to finalize the Fall Tour and get the ladies on board.

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There have been some struggles the past few months but everyone has struggled in one way or another, it is how you look at those struggles that changes your way of thinking.  Keep pushing forward to be the best you can be. Keep growing in your faith and as always share some love, we could all use a little more love.