Law of Attraction and Manifesting

I was listening to this podcast the other day and it hit home for me. I felt the need to share, just in case someone else needs to hear this as well. The Rachel Hollis Podcast – Episode 185

Law of Attraction vs. Manifesting. Most people have heard of the Law of Attraction before and if you haven’t, then it is pretty simple. You attract what you want. Positive thoughts bring positivity into your life. On the other end, the more negative thoughts you have, the more negativity you bring into your life. She went on to explain that manifesting is attracting what you are. There is one key component that needs to be included here, you have to do the work. Just because you are manifesting a greater life, doesn’t mean that it will just appear. I am certain if that were the case, there would be more people better off than they are now.

One thing that was discussed in the podcast was your energy. What kind of energy do you show up with every day? Now we aren’t talking about how tired you are or how much physical energy you have. We are talking about the energy you give, the vibes you put out. If you are giving out frustrated, depressed, and negative feeling vibes, guess what? That is exactly what you are going to get back. If you are full of gratitude and positivity and just happy with life, you guessed it. You are going to get that in return. You attract other people who are at your same energy level.

The podcast went a little deeper discussing how bad a scarcity mindset can affect you. When things don’t seem to be going right, it seems more things tend to go wrong. When things are rock-n-rolling, you bet, everything seems to be working well. Just take a moment to remember how much your mindset can affect you.

My favorite part of the podcast was towards the very end. She gave the reminder of watching what you say, think, and write down because words have power. “At any given moment you are creating your reality or destroying your possibility based on your thoughts alone.” I suggest you re-read that. Now I suggest that you sit in it and really think about it. Words have the biggest impact on you. What are you telling yourself today?

For a deeper dive be sure to check out the podcast, episode 185

As always share some love, we could all use a little more love.

XOXOXO

Casey

When Doubt Hits… Know YOU are Worth it!

Do you ever find yourself wondering why you keep pushing for more? Why you keep going above and beyond because it doesn’t seem like it is going anywhere? If all the time you are investing into something is really worth it?

This past week, I was having some heavy doubt. I was getting ready for a Rustic Pony Show. As I was loading up the trailer, the first thought came into my head, is this really worth it? I was able to combat that negative thought and the next day went to work before I left for the show. That day was TOUGH. My debit card number got hacked, it was the day before a Holiday weekend. I had to cancel my card, drive over four hours away to a show with only the cash in my wallet…which wasn’t much.

That whole day, I spent thinking is this worth it? Is all this time away from my family worth it? Is all this money I have invested into this dream of mine worth it? How long do I pursue this before I just give up? Am I even making any progress? Is this the thing I am supposed to actually be doing?

Let me tell you, once I go down a rabbit hole. I go down a rabbit hole. So there I was Friday feeling sorry for myself, sales weren’t going very good either so it only intensified my feelings. I finally reached out to my go-to pal. They laid it out in the simplest terms. You are trying to better yourself, of course it’s worth it.

Let me expand on that just a little bit. If trying to better your life and your family’s life was easy, everyone would do it. It is hard and takes hard work. It takes failing, it takes losing, and it takes grit. It takes waking up each morning and doing something to get towards your goals. It will take hard work, tears, pushing beyond your limits, and possibly more tears. But guess what? It is worth it. Your dreams are worth it, your family is worth it. YOU are worth it.

When that doubt comes around, just push through and remember that everything you are working for is worth it.  

Just one way to handle those negative emotions

Last blog, I touched on how hard this year has been for me mentally. As I was driving last week, I really felt the need to unpack that a little more in hopes that something I am actively going through may help someone else. The past year and a half I have been on this growth mission, becoming a better version of myself, becoming the person I am meant to be. For the past six months, the mental challenge has been the hardest.

No matter how fast you are growing, stepping out of your comfort zone, learning new things, taking on new challenges, your mental state of mind must grow too. I realized these past few months how hard it is to overcome things mentally. When you have been in the negative space for so long, it is really a challenge every day to stay in the positive state.

I am fortunate to have some solid people in my life. They are supportive, they encourage me, they are right there with me on all the crazy wild ideas I have….but they also bring me back to Earth when I need it. They let me know when I need to stop and think, they let me know that I am not always right about everything, and most importantly they let me know all this in a nice kind manner. However, there are a lot of times when something doesn’t go the way I think it should. Negative emotions and thoughts immediately enter my mind. The first thing I think, they don’t like me anymore. They aren’t going to be there anymore; they don’t want to deal with me anymore.

Never once have my people even hinted at this happening, but after years and years of a negative mindset and mental abuse, these thoughts are my first initial reactions. How do you overcome that? All I can tell you is that every day is a new day to overcome the negative mindset. When those bad boys pop into my head, I literally put them in a box and say to myself, “this isn’t true, my people love me”, and push the thought out of my head. I then begin to focus my mind on the next task at hand. Will I ever be able to kick the old habit of negative thoughts? Only time will tell.

I just wanted you to know that if you are struggling mentally, you are not alone. Don’t give up though, keep tackling every day as a new day and you will be amazed at the wonderful things that come your way.

Share some love, we could all use a little more love

XOXOXO

Casey

Sometimes A Little Help is All You Need

We all need help at some point in our lives, whether that be financial help, moving help, fixing appliances help, and the list goes on. I think sometimes we don’t like to admit that we need help.

This blog will probably be a little touchy for some but I want to break the mold around therapy. For the past 4 years or so I have gone to therapy off and on, sometimes weekly appointments were needed other times it was whenever I felt it was needed. I think one of the harder things about therapy is finding the right therapist and you being ready to to talk. When the two align, it is a beautiful thing. There is something uplifting about being able to sit and talk to someone about what is going on in your mind without repercussions or worrying if they are going to tell your dear secret.

For most people, when we want to vent about anything, we tend to vent to our friends. While this can be okay for some things, sometimes our venting can put our friends in uncomfortable situations. It can cause rifts in your friendships. It can even leave your friends judging other people without potentially knowing the whole story to things. Do your people a favor and leave them out of the venting, go talk to a therapist/counselor instead.

For me, therapy has always been a way of me trying to understand something or potentially understanding someone else’s point of you. When you have an unbiased person talking to you about different examples or a potential point of view about why something is happening, you tend to listen better. Recently, I have become very interested in learning more about why I react the way I do, or why I get overly emotional at the drop of a hat. The human brain is a very intriguing thing and learning how I can show up better in my relationships is always a beautiful thing.

If you have never thought about therapy before, you should let the thought cross your mind. If you have a thought about it but never taken action, try it. It may take a couple therapist to find “the one” but I can promise you it’s worth it.

As always share some love, we could all use a little more love.

XOXO

Casey

More Conversations and Less Confrontations

This is not intended to be a political blog but I am sure it will be looked at that way. I have been watching these last few months, the posts on social media, the media on television, and even the radio stations, all bashing each side over and over again. The thing that I find so concerning in all of this is that there is no talking to one another to actually discover what the differences are. People don’t sit down and have conversations anymore.

What happened to understanding each other? What happened to agreeing to disagree? What happened to having your own viewpoint and yet still being able to get along with other people in the world who don’t have the same viewpoint as you?

I tend to lean to social media/ the internet as some of the cause of this. People get online and post their opinions, which this is perfectly fine. However, when people comment with a difference of opinion, there is no discussion. It goes straight to a full blown drawn out argument or simply getting blocked. I do believe that reading a text is completely different than hearing someone say the exact words to you. Unless you know the person, you have no idea how that “text” is coming across and I would say 9 out of 10 times, that “text” gets misconstrued in the negative way. I also believe that social media/ the internet have made having an actual face to face conversation a lot harder. It is so much easier to be absorbed online and not get out and meet people.

I do want to say that there will probably always be people that are intentionally mean online. That is just some people’s nature, that doesn’t mean you need to reciprocate their behavior. Next time someone comments on your post, how about you ask for an explanation or simply say why do you feel that way? Before you share that post, how about you make sure the information is accurate before you spread it. Before you start bad mouthing the other party and judging people who you don’t even know, how about you take the time to sit down and do the research and come up with your own answers, for your own opinion, don’t let the media just feed you information.

This country needs more love right now than ever before. We need to love our neighbors regardless of how we feel about them. We need to do as much good as possible. Why spend your days on Earth hating and fighting each other? The more negativity you have in your life and mindset, the more problems you are attracting to yourself. My friends, it is okay to disagree with someone and still have them as your friend, family, and neighbor. It is okay to disagree with someone and still show them kindness. We were all made uniquely, we all have different opinions on many things. Don’t let those differences cost you friends and family.

As always share some love, we could all use a little more love.

XOXO

Casey

When Life Gets Tough, Dig Deep and Find Your People

This past week was a tough one for me. Sometimes, it does not matter how positive of a person you are, there are just bad days. It doesn’t matter how nice you are or how much you give or how much you read or listen to your podcasts, you still have those bad days. If you are not careful those bad days can string together and become a bad week. Those things that you usually brush off your shoulders, start to feel a little heavier and it begins to seem like the slightest thing throws you off balance. Then it seems to be one thing after another until you find yourself crying your eyes out over things that are out of your control. To top it off, you can barely move most days because the chiropractor went to work on your neck and the pain just moved down to your back instead. To end the week, you find yourself laying on the floor unable to sleep and just waiting for tomorrow to start. If this is you, YOU ARE NOT ALONE.

Like I said this past week was a rough one. No matter how bad your week gets, just know there is something better coming. Know that no matter how bad it gets, you are amazing and you are doing one heck of a job. Know that these hard times shall pass. And find you a good friend. One of those friends that you can call up at any hour and talk too. One of those friends that will tell you when you are over reacting. One of those friends that will tell you to stop being sooo dramatic, that it isn’t the end of the world. One of those friends that will have your back through thick and thin. This could be your spouse, your lover, your friend, or maybe even your mother. Whoever they are, keep them close and then thank them for always being there for you when you decide to go off the rocker from time to time. Shout out to my person for always being there to snap me out of it.

Be sure to take a moment and acknowledge everything you have accomplished. Pat yourself on the back for how far you have come. Take an evening to yourself to celebrate YOU! The to-do list will always be there tomorrow, your self-care SHOULD always come first! Keep Shining!

As always, share some love, we could all use a little more love!

XOXOXO

Casey

Things I wish I knew in my Twenties ….

The past few days I have been seeing posts that say – People in your thirties, what advise do you have to give to the people in their twenties? While I did comment on some of them, I did want to share more than just one tip. So why not do what I do best and write, it is my cure for everything. Check out my Top 5 tips I wish I knew or had done in my twenties

  1. You don’t have to go to College right away or even at all.

While this is totally against what most people say and think, I am living proof that sometimes it is okay to wait to go to college. My advice would be to go see the world. Move out of your home town. Work. Travel and figure out what you want to do in life, without the influence of other people. There is a huge world out there, explore it. You never know what you will fall in love with. On top of that, if you do go back to college at an older age, you will appreciate everything you learn so much more! Trust me, this I know for a fact.

2. Do what makes you happy regardless of what society, your parents, your friends, or even your neighbors think.

You only have one life. Do not waste it trying to make someone else happy or doing something for someone else.  For so long I tried to “fit in” with what I thought was the right thing that I should be doing. Which in turn pushed aside what I really wanted to do, what my passions were.   You are your own person. Your thoughts, your feelings, your passions are yours and no one else’s. Do not let anyone take those away from you. Pursue those passions with a fire. Do things you love.

3. Save some money from every check

I waited tables and was a bartender for almost 12 years of my life and I have nothing to show for it except some great customer service skills and I know how to make a drink or two. Seriously though, regardless of how much money you make, make sure you save some of it. Save some from every paycheck or every shift you work, even if it is only $5. After 20 shifts you will have $100. Depending on how many shifts a week, that’s roughly $100 a month you are saving. Now just think, if I had done that, I would have over 14 thousand dollars in the bank not including interest. If you have a full-time job, fantastic. Make sure you set up your 401K and at the very minimum put in what you need to get your company to match you.

4. It is okay to be alone

For some reason there is this huge expectation that we have to be married right out of college and have a baby the following year. I am here to tell you, it doesn’t have to be that way. Trust me, I would love to be married and have a family but I also want it to be with the right person. Don’t ever settle because you deserve the world. If your partner isn’t willing to do for you what you are willing to do for them, then maybe just maybe they aren’t the partner for you. It is okay to wait. It is okay to not get married in your twenties. It is more than acceptable to wait for the person that sets your soul on fire.

5. Be a nice human being

There were a lot of times in my twenties when I was not a very nice person, especially since I worked in a restaurant for all of them.  Be a nice person. Show compassion and love. Show grace. No one is perfect and everyone makes mistakes. That perfect family or life you see on social media isn’t real.  Everyone has their own troubles and struggles that you may know nothing about. Be nice and spread some love.

These may seem like small tips to some but sometimes it is the little things that matter the most.

Whatever you do in your twenties, be great doing it.

And as always, spread some love. We could all use a little more love.

XOXO

Casey

Weddings, CattleWomen and More

It is been a while since I have put pen to paper but this has given me the opportunity to think through a lot of things.  Sometimes taking that step back from a situation helps clear our heads and enables us to look at things from a different viewpoint.

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There have been a lot of beautiful things that have happened lately. Roughly a month ago, I was able to witness my brother say I do to his new wife.  The place was fantastic and the wedding was great, however, my favorite part was watching both of them share their vows for each other.  You could honestly see the love they had for each other beaming out of them.   To love someone that deeply has to be a feeling that is out of this world.  I know I am a little late on this but I had to share it.  To my brother, if you are reading this, I hope that you know how incredibly proud I am of you.  You amaze me every day with your selflessness to serve.  I look you up to you in so many ways.  I know most of the time we spend together we normally end up picking on each other but just know that is out of love.  It has been amazing watching you grow up to the man you are today.  Thank you for stepping in and playing a role in Mattie’s life, watching y’all two at the wedding brought more love to my heart than you can ever imagine.  It brings tears to my eyes writing about it now.  So thank you.

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This past weekend I was able to rejuvenate my love for CattleWomen.  We spent the weekend at our annual Women In Ranching program and it was a blast.  Being surrounded by women with like minds is an incredible thing.  I was able to sit and watch ladies of all experience levels come together to make a weekend successful.  The one thing I loved most about all this is the friendships I have made and continue to make.  There were times in these last few months that have been pretty lonely, not really quite sure I had any friends at some points, but these ladies have changed that.  It is not often that you can get a bunch of ladies in a room together and have everyone get along.  My favorite moment of the whole weekend was Saturday evening, killing some time before dinner.  I sat down at a table with two other ladies and within 10 minutes, not only was our table full, we had a circle of probably almost 15 ladies, talking, sharing stories, and getting to know one another.  This event has put me on fire and I can not wait to finalize the Fall Tour and get the ladies on board.

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There have been some struggles the past few months but everyone has struggled in one way or another, it is how you look at those struggles that changes your way of thinking.  Keep pushing forward to be the best you can be. Keep growing in your faith and as always share some love, we could all use a little more love.

“I will Soar on Wings like Eagles..”

As I was driving home last night, this topic was really weighing on my heart and mind and I felt I needed to share.  Yesterday was a good day.  No, yesterday was a great day.  Texas CattleWomen had an informational session in Decatur and the best possible outcome happened that could have, we got a new local started.  How can all these great things be happening but yet it feels as if I am not doing enough or the results that I am getting are not good enough.

Over the past couple of weeks, I have really noticed how much and how bad negative thoughts can affect someone.  Trust me, I get them all the time and normally always assume the worst.  Why, why do we do that?  I can work my tail off at something and nail it and get told that what I did was great and yet I am still so unsure.  It is crazy how the mind works, why some people feel certain ways and others can’t.  How self-confidence can make or break you.  How it can be so hard to genuinely accept that – Hey! You are doing a dang good job!

Just know that You are enough! When you get that compliment, say thank you and enjoy it.  Relish in it and give yourself a pat on the back.  Believe in yourself as much as other people do – this is HUGE, something I struggle with a lot.  It is okay to have bad days, everyone has bad days, but get up, dust yourself off and make tomorrow better. No one is perfect, no one.  Smile, you never know who is watching or wanting to be just like you.

Find things that make you happy and do them.  Learn to be you and don’t let anyone take that away from you.  And sometimes you just need a three-hour jam session of some Jesus music.  This next week I challenge you to do something out of the norm, whether that be saying hello to someone on the street, trying some new food, or even picking up a new hobby. Have an amazing week and as always share some love, we could all use some more love.

 

 

Sliding into 2019

2019 started with my foot on the gas pedal!  A quiet New Year’s Eve evening with Mattie popping fireworks with my dad and me, which has turned into a tradition, has turned into a non-stop roller coaster from Mattie’s extracurricular activities to starting a new job to my CattleWomen to school starting.  My life has been busy busy busy but I wouldn’t have it any other way!

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I am definitely excited to see what is in store for 2019.  2018 was amazing overall but I was glad to see it go.  A new year always means a new slate to me.  A new year to make a difference and to live life to the fullest. 2018 started off with a bang and slowly dwindled down so I can only imagine what 2019 has in store.  It is true, my thirties have already been better than my twenties and I am just getting started.

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It is crazy how your path can take you to different places, with different people, and you learn and become interested in different things.  I always knew that I had a creative side in me.  I mean, I did originally want to go to College for a photography degree. The more time I spend working the more and more I fall in love with it. I was sitting at my desk the other day working on a design for a new website and I thought to myself, I should have been a communication major or something equivalent.  I wish I would have gotten more experience in that field in school but one of my classes this semester is Ag Design so I am super excited about that.

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God continues to bless me every day and I am so thankful for all the wonderful opportunities that I have been given and my amazing parents for making those opportunities possible for me.

2019 is going to be a year of rebuilding for me, a year of growing up, a year of finding new hobbies and pursuing them, a year of traveling (gotta love my CattleWomen ladies), a year of making new memories and a year of cherishing everything and everyone around me.

Here is to 2019 and I hope your year is the best that is can possibly be!

As always share some love, we can always use some more love!