Choose Joy.

I was recently watching Grey’s Anatomy and in one of the episodes, they were talking about happiness and joy. Looking for joy and finding some happiness or doing things that made you happy. The looking for joy, really hit me.

It is all about our mindset and how we choose to view things. I could wake up in the morning and be annoyed or irritated at work. I could be frustrated with my commute. I could just be an unhappy person to be around. Frustrated with my circumstances, finances, the way the world is going.

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I could wake up and smile. I could feel the happiness. I could look for things throughout my day that bring me more and more joy. Did you know that when you smile, it helps your mood?

I recently started smiling when answering the phone and my overall mood on the phone is happier. Customers seem to be happier too. Talking with a smile on your face seems to help lift any mood.

All of this sounds so grand and easy. Wake up and be happy, choose joy. We all know it isn’t that simple though. There are going to be days that no matter how hard you try, it is hard to see the joy. You are going to wake up on the wrong side of the bed and not be able to fix it. There will be days where nothing seems to go right and there will be days where it all seems to fall apart. This is okay. The important part is that you keep trying. Every day. Keep trying to find ways to choose joy. Keep working on being kind to your neighbor. At a certain point, you won’t have to keep trying, it will just come naturally. I am on the path of trying, everyday, trying to be better than I was the day before. Choosing Joy. Choosing Happiness.

Just remember, joy doesn’t have to be some grand gesture or experience. It could be someone complementing your glasses or opening the door for you or complementing your shoes! It is the little things, they matter the most. While you are on the outlook for joy, don’t be afraid to show kindness to others. If you like someone’s outfit, tell them. Imagine the world we could live in, if people started paying attention to others and were nice. For my introverts, this is harder to do trust me I am right there with you. The more you do it, the easier it gets. You never know how much you can brighten someone’s day by complementing them though.

Choose Joy and Share some love, we could all use a little more love.

Some Small Perks of Living in the Country

I grew up in a small town with about 10,000 people. I was able to spend a lot of time with my dad growing up and he lived outside the city limits. He lived in a neighborhood still but most of the houses had an acre or a little more of land with them. I thought this was living in the country and boy was I wrong.

For the last two years, I have lived in a tiny tiny town called Rosanky. We have a post office and a gas station called The Wagon Wheel. The closest towns with places in them would be Smithville (home of the Hope Floats movie) and Bastrop, which are each about a 20 minute drive. When I first moved here, I did not like it. On the very first day, I had to go to Bastrop and get a new phone because my old phone had no service. Zilch. Internet service, keep dreaming. Mind you, I moved from College Station, so this was a big big change. Buttttt my feelings have changed over the last two years and I am so grateful.

Top 3 reasons why you should live in the country

  • No internet service!

We do have some internet, it is just spotty at times. You can’t stream movies, Facetime and phone calls are spotty, and scrolling online is not really a thing. This may be hard for some to imagine but I am so incredibly thankful for this. Getting off social media has been so good for me. Also, think about all the extra time you have to do things that bring you happiness when you aren’t mindlessly scrolling through social media. My nose is normally stuck in a book, which I am always looking for new recommendations!

  • Wildlife

While, I would love to have cattle in my backyard, I am not quite there yet, but we do have wildlife. Spring/Summer is my favorite time, the fawns show up with their mothers. Watching them run and play so carefree, reminds you of the miracles of life.

  • Stars and the Moon

One of my favorite things to do is just sit outside and look at the stars. Look to find the constellations in the sky. You can’t see that in the city, there are too many lights. But out here, they are shining bright, right along with that moon. Breath taking.

While some of these things may not interest you in the least, you should try getting out of the city more. Even if it is just for a Sunday drive. Look at all the wonderful things surrounding you. All the miracles life brings us. Stop and smell the roses and remember the little things, the little things are the important things. Breath the fresh air, feel the goodness in your soul.

As always share some love, we could all use a little more love
XOXOXOXO
Casey

12 Rules for Life – Book Review

12 Rules for Life by Jordan Peterson, this book was really interesting. Some parts of it were a little harder to get through for me than others, but overall I enjoyed it. These are some of the rules that stood out to me. 

#1 – Stand up straight, with your shoulders back 

  • “the acts of life we repeat everyday need to be automatized”

Meaning, create habits so that the things you do everyday become normal, gives you more time and energy to try new things

  • “People size you up. If you present yourself as defeated, then people will react to you as if you are losing.”

Always be confident in whatever you are doing. If you are not confident in the task you are trying to tackle, no-one else is going to think you are confident. You can see defeat on someone’s face a mile away, don’t let it be shown on your face. 

#4 – Compare yourself to who you were yesterday not to who someone else is today 

  • “Where you start might not be as important as the direction you are heading.”

Maybe let’s read that bullet point above again. Where you start might not be as important as the direction you are heading. This is so very true but sometimes hard to remember in the moment. Looking back over my journey, my start was rough, it was rocky, it was trying to survive. Now, I am thankful for all that. It has helped me become the person that I am today. Helped me on a journey to constant improvement and confidence to know that I am make it through anything.  

  • “Perhaps happiness is always to be found in the journey uphill, and not in the fleeting sense of satisfaction awaiting at the next peak.”

I think everyone just wants to be happy. I think we all have a hard time finding it sometimes. I have often heard that happiness is found in the journey. Well, sometimes the journey is hard and anything but happy. But, there are moments each day that bring happiness, you just have to be willing to look for those moments. The sunrise, the birds singing, the fawn running or the great music on your drive in to work. Shift your mindset and look for the things that make you happy.

  • “I want things in my life to be a tiny bit better than they were this morning.”
  • “What you aim at determines what you see.”

Each day strive to be just a little bit better than yesterday. If you are striving to be a little better each day, after time it adds up. If you don’t have goals and dreams, get some. If you aren’t aiming at something, it is very hard to keep moving forward. Sometimes, I feel like I am just drifting, then I remind myself of the dreams, goals.

#8 – Tell the truth or, at least don’t lie.

  • “If you will not reveal yourself to others, you cannot reveal yourself to yourself.” 

If you can’t be honest, you will never truly know you. Be bold enough to be honest and tell the truth. You only get better from your mistakes. Eventually, all things will catch up to you, just be honest from the start and true to yourself. Sometimes, honesty can be super hard to tell and to hear, but in the end it is worth it. 

Interested in more of the rules? Check out the book

As always, share some love, we could all use a little more love. 

XOXOXO

Casey