Finding Joy Each and Every Day

Today marks a new day. Today, I had a revelation. The past few weeks or more like months have been little rough. I have been searching for something that isn’t there. Searching for something that I thought could turn things around. Searching for something that, technically I can only provide for myself, however, I did not know that.

I am an avid reader. Anytime I see a book that looks halfway interesting, I buy it. Anytime, I hear book recommendations, I write them down. I am open to all books, although I would say my favorite would be murder mysteries and any books that are geared towards self-help and growth. I find it very fascinating, the little tad bits of information that you pick up here and there.

Recently, I started reading Super Attractor by Gabrielle Bernstein. I have had this book for a while now and have even tried to start it before and didn’t get into it. That changed though, now was the right time for me to read this and I am so thankful. God works in mysterious ways.

This book is about really connecting with that high power that you believe in, whether that be God, the universe, or a higher spirit. It talks quite a bit about how to get out of a place of negativity and to really focus on the joy in your life. There is even a list of the different emotions that we as humans go through. Within the first four chapters, I realized two things that I have been doing wrong for quite a while.

  1. When I am in a low state, instead of trying to climb out of it, I just want to be on cloud nine again. When that doesn’t happen, it can make me feel even more defeated. It is better to work on one emotion at a time. So, whenever I am sad, instead of trying to feel extreme happiness. I just need to focus a step up from being sad. Being content. Then focus on the next emotion I need to get me to the next step of being ultimately happy.
  1. My second realization was that only I can bring joy into my life. For so long, I have looked to others and things to fill something that I thought I was missing. No one or no material thing can do that for you. You have to be the one to find that joy. You have to be the one that chooses to wake up each morning and choose joy. You have to be the one that finds joy in every crummy situation you may be in.

It is interesting how much at peace I have been the last few days. Waking up every morning, choosing joy, and knowing that things will work out how they are supposed to work out on God’s terms. There is peace in knowing and appreciating all the amazing things you have in your life. To find joy again in your life is an amazing thing. I hope that every morning you choose joy.

As always share some love, we could all use a little more love.

XOXOXO

Casey

Volleman’s Wildcat Dairy Farm, in Little Ole’ Gustine, Texas

Milk, it does the body good! One of my favorite things to do is meet other cattle (beef & dairy) producers. Today I toured my second dairy and this one was phenomenal. Located in Gustine, Texas, Volleman’s Wildcat Dairy started in 1993 with 50 Dairy cows. The operation today consists of 5,000 Dairy cows!

            Not only has the dairy grown in size over the last 25 years but they have also started bottling their own milk as well. They sell their milk in glass bottles! Besides learning about their operation, this had to be the coolest thing I heard all day. The instant I heard him say that I felt like they were bringing back some of the old ways of doing things. Did I mention they have a home delivery option as well? And that you can return the glass bottles and they refill them for you?!? Oh, and one other small mention, they are the official milk of the DALLAS COWBOYS!!! How awesome is that! This dairy is doing some amazing things. For more information on where their milk is sold or how you can sign up for home delivery, check out their website here – https://vollemansdairy.com/stores/

            If you have ever wondered about the treatment of Dairy Cows, let me tell you, these ladies have it made in the shade. They are in free stall barns with cross vents. This means the cows are under shade and have air flowing in and cooling them off. They are also able to walk, laydown, and eat in whichever stall they want. Did I mention they have sprinklers that cool them down when they eat? Talk about the life!

            Another fun fact about this dairy, they let people come out and tour, not only their dairy barn but also the bottling plant where the milk is processed and bottled. This would be one of the neatest field trips ever. If you have little ones and want to learn more about dairy’s, this tour is for you!  For more information on that, be sure to click here – https://vollemansdairy.com/dairy-tours/

            Today was a great day, one of those days that you wish everyone could experience. The best thing overall for me was the love and passion that David had for his cows and his industry. I wish all consumers could experience that firsthand. When you get to experience that love and passion, you know without a doubt, they will do whatever it takes to care for their animals. To love what you do, while making a positive impact not only on your family and the local community but across the state and surrounding states, well that’s a beautiful thing.

As always spread some love, we could all use a little more love

XOXOXOXO

Casey

Sometimes a Little Music is All We Need

I am on the road quite a bit, commuting to work, going to events and all the other things that life throws my way. I try to listen to podcasts but sometimes music is what I need. Today was one of those days.

Do you ever listen to a song, and it just hits your soul and then you listen to it on repeat until you get out of the truck? No? Just me? Okay, no worries, I know that I can be pretty weird at times.

Now don’t laugh, but today was Luke Combs – Houston, we got a problem. If you have never listened to this song, the lyrics are about Houston and Texas. As I was listening to the words, all kinds of thoughts flooded my mind. 

“I got my new boots covered in red dirt, a “Don’t Mess with Texas” T-shirt, and a Lonestar postcard, postmarked with missing you, it’s got the biggest sky you’ve ever seen…”

I immediately was so grateful that I have been raised in Texas. That I grew up with red dirt on my boots. That I have seen the most beautiful Texas Sunrises and Sunsets. Thankful, I have been able to travel Texas and see all the beauty it has to offer.

“…Should’ve seen Midnight Rodeo, the way them saloon doors swing when they line dance to “Copperhead Road…”

Grateful for some of the best times I have had dancing to Copper Head Road. It is funny how a simple song can bring you to a place of perspective. How a single song can turn your mindset around. How a simple song, can take a crummy week you have been having and turn it around, or better yet, how God can talk to you through a simple song and remind you of all the amazing wonders he offers us.

Take a moment today to stop and reflect and remember how grateful you are. Gratitude is a wonderful thing.

As always share some love, we could all use a little more love

XOXOXO

Casey

Sometimes We All Need a Reminder from the Big Man Upstairs

These last few weeks, I have really been confused on life. Looking at all the things around me and while being grateful for everything that has come my way, still feeling like something is missing. Still wondering what I am doing wrong, still wondering what I need to do to get to the next level.

I am a pen and paper kind of girl and I have number crunched and dreamed and planned things out, so many times in so many different ways and yet the past few years, I have still been stuck in the same place, making not so fast progress in my eyes. In fact, I have probably fallen back some instead of moving forward.

A month or so ago, I was checking out at Hobby Lobby and they had some books on sale. Me being the reader that I am snagged them for a later day. That later day just so happened to be in these last few weeks. Sometimes, God puts things in your life to make you stop and think and that is exactly what this book did. It was a relationship book and while the advice in it was solid, I pulled something entirely different from the book.

If you aren’t inviting God into your life, no matter how hard you work at things, you will never have the fulfillment that you are looking for.

This book intrigued me and let’s just say I needed this book at this exact time. I was broken down, to a point of not understanding a lot of things about the way life was going. It reminded me that I wasn’t praying like I should be, that I wasn’t spending time with God like I should be and that instead of trying to figure out all my problems, give them over to God.

I then proceeded to watch “War Room”, one of my favorite movies with Priscilla Shirer, who shows us how to fight the right way in prayer. There is no better feeling than knowing that you are on the right path, that fire, that excitement that burns in you. My question to you is, how do you keep it burning? How do you keep that fire alive? When the mundane tasks of everyday life begin to catch up to you, how do you break out of that cycle?

If you haven’t seen War Room, I highly suggest you watch it. Priscilla also has a book called “Fervent” that is pretty amazing if you are trying to bring some fire to your prayer routine. No matter what season of life you are going through right now, turn to the Big Man upstairs. Watch and be grateful for the things that come your way.

As always share some love, we could all use a little more love

XOXOXO

Casey

Sometimes Slowing Down is Key

The past few weeks have been quite an eye-opening experience for me. I have listened to quite a few podcasts and read some books and had previously come away with the understanding that if you want something, you have to put the pedal to the metal and make it happen. This was my current mindset for my boutique, “The Rustic Pony”. I was trying to do all the things that I could do, to make it grow as fast as possible.

Sometimes that mindset and growth aspect isn’t possible. Yes, you want to try your hardest to make your business successful or do your best at work to get promoted. However, there is a line that you have to be weary of. You can’t push so hard for something that it interferes with your personal finances. You can push and push all you can, but if your business isn’t producing the income to supplement that push, then maybe you need to take a step back and slow down.

I was trying so hard to make something work, I was traveling to all the big shows and telling myself that, oh I will pay myself back after the show. That is all great and dandy until your show doesn’t produce the income you need to not only cover the costs, but to pay yourself back as well. While I know most are smarter when it comes to decisions like this, it happened before I realized it was happening.

I want to let you know that it is okay to start out slow, it is okay to grow at a rate where you feel comfortable, and your business can afford the moves you are wanting to make. It is okay that it may take longer than you hoped. Do not compare your journey with anyone else’s. Your journey is yours alone.

I am so grateful that I got smacked in the face the last couple of weeks. It has sent me back to the drawing board and actually given me a breath of fresh air, a new hope of the future to come, and the ability to slow down and do things the right way. There is room for everyone at the top, slow down, truly enjoy the journey and you will be there before you know it.

The Rustic Pony is still traveling some, so be on the lookout as we will be hitting up some more local shows! Interested in what The Rustic Pony is? Check us out here – http://www.therusticpony.com

When Doubt Hits… Know YOU are Worth it!

Do you ever find yourself wondering why you keep pushing for more? Why you keep going above and beyond because it doesn’t seem like it is going anywhere? If all the time you are investing into something is really worth it?

This past week, I was having some heavy doubt. I was getting ready for a Rustic Pony Show. As I was loading up the trailer, the first thought came into my head, is this really worth it? I was able to combat that negative thought and the next day went to work before I left for the show. That day was TOUGH. My debit card number got hacked, it was the day before a Holiday weekend. I had to cancel my card, drive over four hours away to a show with only the cash in my wallet…which wasn’t much.

That whole day, I spent thinking is this worth it? Is all this time away from my family worth it? Is all this money I have invested into this dream of mine worth it? How long do I pursue this before I just give up? Am I even making any progress? Is this the thing I am supposed to actually be doing?

Let me tell you, once I go down a rabbit hole. I go down a rabbit hole. So there I was Friday feeling sorry for myself, sales weren’t going very good either so it only intensified my feelings. I finally reached out to my go-to pal. They laid it out in the simplest terms. You are trying to better yourself, of course it’s worth it.

Let me expand on that just a little bit. If trying to better your life and your family’s life was easy, everyone would do it. It is hard and takes hard work. It takes failing, it takes losing, and it takes grit. It takes waking up each morning and doing something to get towards your goals. It will take hard work, tears, pushing beyond your limits, and possibly more tears. But guess what? It is worth it. Your dreams are worth it, your family is worth it. YOU are worth it.

When that doubt comes around, just push through and remember that everything you are working for is worth it.  

Just one way to handle those negative emotions

Last blog, I touched on how hard this year has been for me mentally. As I was driving last week, I really felt the need to unpack that a little more in hopes that something I am actively going through may help someone else. The past year and a half I have been on this growth mission, becoming a better version of myself, becoming the person I am meant to be. For the past six months, the mental challenge has been the hardest.

No matter how fast you are growing, stepping out of your comfort zone, learning new things, taking on new challenges, your mental state of mind must grow too. I realized these past few months how hard it is to overcome things mentally. When you have been in the negative space for so long, it is really a challenge every day to stay in the positive state.

I am fortunate to have some solid people in my life. They are supportive, they encourage me, they are right there with me on all the crazy wild ideas I have….but they also bring me back to Earth when I need it. They let me know when I need to stop and think, they let me know that I am not always right about everything, and most importantly they let me know all this in a nice kind manner. However, there are a lot of times when something doesn’t go the way I think it should. Negative emotions and thoughts immediately enter my mind. The first thing I think, they don’t like me anymore. They aren’t going to be there anymore; they don’t want to deal with me anymore.

Never once have my people even hinted at this happening, but after years and years of a negative mindset and mental abuse, these thoughts are my first initial reactions. How do you overcome that? All I can tell you is that every day is a new day to overcome the negative mindset. When those bad boys pop into my head, I literally put them in a box and say to myself, “this isn’t true, my people love me”, and push the thought out of my head. I then begin to focus my mind on the next task at hand. Will I ever be able to kick the old habit of negative thoughts? Only time will tell.

I just wanted you to know that if you are struggling mentally, you are not alone. Don’t give up though, keep tackling every day as a new day and you will be amazed at the wonderful things that come your way.

Share some love, we could all use a little more love

XOXOXO

Casey

Sometimes Saying “Yes” Isn’t the Answer

The last few months have seemed like a wild ride. How is it already almost July and where has the time gone? This year has been a mentally challenging one for me. There have been times that I have been on top of the mountain and there have been times when I could barely get out of bed. There have been times when I have been winning at all the things except for the things that matter. When the relationships with people that matter are not on point, then my world gets rocked regardless of whatever else is happening. This has helped me reflect and realize what is most important in my life as well, my people.

I just finished reading this book – “Essentialism: The Disciplined Pursuit of Less” and I found it very fascinating. It is very intriguing that we as humans tend to say “Yes” to all the things in hopes that it gets us to where we are going faster, only quite a bit of the time that isn’t the case. When you spend all your energy completing all the tasks on all the things, you make very small moves. If you spend all your energy completing just a few tasks on the right path, you make big moves.

My biggest takeaway from the book was, when an opportunity presents itself, if you don’t immediately say “Heck Yesssss! Let’s do this thing” then you should probably say no. But before you can do that, you need to make sure you have a clear vision on what your future/path looks like. You have to make sure that the opportunities you say “Yes” to align with the ultimate goal. Because if you aren’t shooting for the ultimate almost unattainable goal, then what are you aiming for?

All that being said, we all know that in some cases we have to do things we don’t want to do because well, that is how we survive and get a paycheck. My challenge to you though is to start pursuing things you enjoy. Start trying new hobbies, start exploring those options. Find what makes you happy, clarify your vision, and do whatever it takes (legally) to make all those dreams come true. The journey is the best part. That is where you learn, grow and become the person you were made to be.

While this first half of the year has had its up and downs, the growth I have done as a person out does all the hard days of barely getting out of bed. I have finally come to understand that I have barely scratched the surface on what I am capable of, and I cannot wait to see what happens the rest of the year. It is never too late to hit the re-start button. You got this. Go be amazing!

In Order to Grow, You First Have to see Value in Yourself

For me, I love learning. I find many different things fascinating and want to learn as much as I can about them. My current obsession is self-growth. I have grown so much the last year but feel like I have so far to go. I am constantly trying to think of ways to stretch my comfort zone. 

I began reading John Maxwell’s – The 15 Invaluable Laws of Growth – I made it to Chapter 3 and I was blown away and I had to share it with y’all!

Chapter 3 – The Law of the Mirror – You Must See Value in Yourself to Add Value to Yourself

The chapter goes on to discuss the power of positive self-esteem and that low self-esteem puts a ceiling on your potential. The value we place on ourselves is usually the value others place on us. For someone who has struggled with self-esteem issues and has always wondered why certain people, things, and places were attracted to me or that I attracted, reading that sentence, a light bulb went off. You can’t expect people to think highly of you, if you don’t even think highly of yourself first. This goes back to self-love, you have to love yourself first before you can ever truly love someone else.

So what is the next step? You realize you need to work on your self-esteem but how? The chapter continues with Steps to Build Your Self Image

1. Guard Your Self-Talk

Do you encourage yourself or criticize yourself? Are you a positive person or a negative person? These things are important and matter, remember to pay attention to the language you are using on yourself. Many of us say destructive things to ourselves that we would never say to another person we cared about.

2. Stop Comparing Yourself to Others

You can’t look at your journey and compare it to someone else’s success. Right now, this is one of the hardest things I am dealing with. Want to know why I am not as present on social media anymore? This is why. The nonstop scrolling looking at other people’s highlight reel, brings all kind of negative juju into my life, so I stopped scrolling.

3. Move Beyond Your Limiting Beliefs

For some reason, we as humans tend to believe we can’t accomplish certain things. If you constantly tell yourself that you won’t achieve that thing, then you never will. I catch myself sometimes wondering if I will ever really achieve my dreams. When that happens, I stop and pause and sit in the moment and think about how I will feel when my dreams do come true. ALWAYS believe you can achieve something, just know you may have to work a little harder for it to happen.

4. Add Value to Others

It is really hard to feel bad about yourself when you are adding value to other people’s lives. You never know how one tiny contribution from you can change someone’s perspective.

5. Do The Right Thing, Even if it’s Hard

Always do the right thing, even if that means you are in trouble. Being true to yourself and your values is a huge self-esteem booster.

There are five more tips but I don’t want to spoil the whole chapter for you! If you are interested in the additional five tips, just send me a message or comment and I will be happy to get those for you. At the end of the chapter, he asks you to reflect and do some “homework”. 

Make a list of all your best personal qualities. This might be a struggle but don’t stop. If it takes you a while, that is okay too but don’t stop until you have written 100 positive things about yourself. Yes, you read that right, 100! I am currently working on this challenge myself and I challenge you to do the same thing. You got this!

As always share some love, we could all use a little more love

XOXO

Casey

Sometimes A Little Help is All You Need

We all need help at some point in our lives, whether that be financial help, moving help, fixing appliances help, and the list goes on. I think sometimes we don’t like to admit that we need help.

This blog will probably be a little touchy for some but I want to break the mold around therapy. For the past 4 years or so I have gone to therapy off and on, sometimes weekly appointments were needed other times it was whenever I felt it was needed. I think one of the harder things about therapy is finding the right therapist and you being ready to to talk. When the two align, it is a beautiful thing. There is something uplifting about being able to sit and talk to someone about what is going on in your mind without repercussions or worrying if they are going to tell your dear secret.

For most people, when we want to vent about anything, we tend to vent to our friends. While this can be okay for some things, sometimes our venting can put our friends in uncomfortable situations. It can cause rifts in your friendships. It can even leave your friends judging other people without potentially knowing the whole story to things. Do your people a favor and leave them out of the venting, go talk to a therapist/counselor instead.

For me, therapy has always been a way of me trying to understand something or potentially understanding someone else’s point of you. When you have an unbiased person talking to you about different examples or a potential point of view about why something is happening, you tend to listen better. Recently, I have become very interested in learning more about why I react the way I do, or why I get overly emotional at the drop of a hat. The human brain is a very intriguing thing and learning how I can show up better in my relationships is always a beautiful thing.

If you have never thought about therapy before, you should let the thought cross your mind. If you have a thought about it but never taken action, try it. It may take a couple therapist to find “the one” but I can promise you it’s worth it.

As always share some love, we could all use a little more love.

XOXO

Casey