Favorite Places and Mental Reset Days

The older I get and the more I grow as a person, I continue to see and realize how important mental health is. Sometimes you just need a time out. A mental health day to reset. Never be afraid to take these days for yourself. Whether you are married, a parent, a single parent, or living your best life, these days are essential. No matter what is going on, you have to take care of yourself first before you can take care of anyone else. 

I was able to have a reset this past weekend. I went to one of my favorite places and put my toes in the sand. I turned on my favorite music and watched the waves crash onto the shore. I blocked out all the thoughts and really just tried to get in tune with my surroundings. The way the sand felt between my toes, the sounds of the waves, the feel of the ocean, the open sky, even the seagulls that really wanted some of my Cheez-its. It was an opportunity for me to know and understand that sometimes, you just have to let things go and see what happens. 

The only downfall of having a reset day, is that when you come back home, all the things you left are still there. Hopefully, your reset can put a new perspective on things and you are able to find a new way to navigate them. For me, the last two weeks, I have been having trouble sleeping. Waking up in the middle of the night and having my mind just run 100 miles an hour. Stress and anxiety can do that to you. While my reset helped some, if you are unable to get a way, here are some tips that can help with sleeping through the night

  • Technology – turn it off and don’t use it before bed 
  • Regular exercise 
  • Meditate prior to bed
  • Create a calming environment
  • Journal – getting all those thoughts out and down on paper 
  • Be sure to take time to unwind
  • Read

Don’t forget, taking care of yourself is one of the most important things you can do for yourself. You only get one life, make it a happy one. 

As always share some love, we could all use a little more love. 



When Life Smacks You in the Face … Laugh

Life can be a wild ride. You can get thrown curve balls. You can get hit smack in the face, (I have plenty of times!) You can think you have all the plans, dreams, and goals mapped out, while God says watch this and shakes it all up. 2022 has been that kind of year for me. The last few months have really stopped me in my tracks.

When this happens for me, I get hit with the – “Is this what I am really supposed to be doing?” “Is it really supposed to be this hard?” “What if this isn’t the right path for me?”

One thing I have learned, is that plans, dreams, and goals can blow up in a single instant. Everything that you thought was going to happen, won’t anymore. Everything that you had been working for, it wasn’t meant to be. Coming to the realization that no matter how much you plan, it doesn’t always work in your favor is a tough pill to swallow. While, it may seem like everything is crashing down, know, there is beauty in everything.

There is something peaceful about not being tied to 10 year plans. There is excitement about waking up and just focusing on the day. Working to be just a little bit better than you were yesterday. There is simplicity in just working on your next step and not the five steps after it. There is curiosity in stepping out and trying something new. There is bravery in being open to all the amazing things that can come your way, once you open your doors.

A conversation with a customer sat with me. “There is never a bad day, there are only bad moments in the day.” While everything may seem like it is crashing down or falling apart, maybe it was supposed to happen that way. Maybe, there are just bad moments in your life. Maybe just maybe, they happened for a reason. To show you another side, one you never knew you had.

Your perspective on things matters. More than you know. This, I have learned the hard way. Embrace the changes that are coming. Know that God, the universe, whatever you believe, has got your back. Pray, meditate, burn sage, sing, dance, or write, whatever you need to do to get your happy back. Put a big smile on your face and know that amazing things are coming your way. Most of all laugh. Not just a chuckle, the deep belly laughs. Those remind you that in all the chaos, life is still good. Shout out to my kiddo who reminds me to laugh and to never stop believing in the unexpected.

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12 Rules for Life – Book Review

12 Rules for Life by Jordan Peterson, this book was really interesting. Some parts of it were a little harder to get through for me than others, but overall I enjoyed it. These are some of the rules that stood out to me. 

#1 – Stand up straight, with your shoulders back 

  • “the acts of life we repeat everyday need to be automatized”

Meaning, create habits so that the things you do everyday become normal, gives you more time and energy to try new things

  • “People size you up. If you present yourself as defeated, then people will react to you as if you are losing.”

Always be confident in whatever you are doing. If you are not confident in the task you are trying to tackle, no-one else is going to think you are confident. You can see defeat on someone’s face a mile away, don’t let it be shown on your face. 

#4 – Compare yourself to who you were yesterday not to who someone else is today 

  • “Where you start might not be as important as the direction you are heading.”

Maybe let’s read that bullet point above again. Where you start might not be as important as the direction you are heading. This is so very true but sometimes hard to remember in the moment. Looking back over my journey, my start was rough, it was rocky, it was trying to survive. Now, I am thankful for all that. It has helped me become the person that I am today. Helped me on a journey to constant improvement and confidence to know that I am make it through anything.  

  • “Perhaps happiness is always to be found in the journey uphill, and not in the fleeting sense of satisfaction awaiting at the next peak.”

I think everyone just wants to be happy. I think we all have a hard time finding it sometimes. I have often heard that happiness is found in the journey. Well, sometimes the journey is hard and anything but happy. But, there are moments each day that bring happiness, you just have to be willing to look for those moments. The sunrise, the birds singing, the fawn running or the great music on your drive in to work. Shift your mindset and look for the things that make you happy.

  • “I want things in my life to be a tiny bit better than they were this morning.”
  • “What you aim at determines what you see.”

Each day strive to be just a little bit better than yesterday. If you are striving to be a little better each day, after time it adds up. If you don’t have goals and dreams, get some. If you aren’t aiming at something, it is very hard to keep moving forward. Sometimes, I feel like I am just drifting, then I remind myself of the dreams, goals.

#8 – Tell the truth or, at least don’t lie.

  • “If you will not reveal yourself to others, you cannot reveal yourself to yourself.” 

If you can’t be honest, you will never truly know you. Be bold enough to be honest and tell the truth. You only get better from your mistakes. Eventually, all things will catch up to you, just be honest from the start and true to yourself. Sometimes, honesty can be super hard to tell and to hear, but in the end it is worth it. 

Interested in more of the rules? Check out the book

As always, share some love, we could all use a little more love.