2023 is Here!

2023 is here and I for one, could not be happier. Most people start the New Years out with a resolution or a word for the year. I personally do not do well with setting resolutions. I normally break mine the first week into the New Year. But, the word for the year is something that has given me some thought. I spent this past weekend mulling over what I wanted my word of the year to be.

Instead of having just one word, I decided to go with a different approach. I would have one overarching word that would encompass other things that I was working on as well. If you read my lessons learned blog, these are going to sound really familiar to you.

My overarching word for 2023 is Happiness. This has been crucial to my 2022 ending and I know going into 2023 this needs to remain important to me. Happiness. Happiness for me looks like being involved in things I am passionate about. Making sure I take the time to do my self-care routine; this includes journaling, reading. I notice a difference in my outlook and attitude when I don’t make time for these things. Learning to stand on my own two feet and being proud of everything that I have accomplished.

One of the underlying things that I plan on paying special attention to this year is Energy. Positive energy is key. Investing in people who have positive energy and are investing that energy back into me is also pertinent. I have always been a giver, and I go above and beyond. This year, I am really taking the time to examine that. Whether that be relationships or activities. Is this person actively investing positive energy back to me or am I just giving and giving. Does this activity, bring me positive energy? Is this getting me closer to my goals, or is it throwing me off course?

When life gets busy, we keep our heads down, get to work and often miss opportunities that present themselves. Those opportunities could be game changing to your happiness aspect. Paying attention to opportunities and surroundings is another underlying concept that I am focusing on for 2023. The world is vast and you never know what or who may turn up on your door step. I plan on working hard this year with my head up and eyes open.

For me, traveling is one of my favorite things to do and plays right into happiness. I plan on getting out and about as much as I can in 2023. You never know where your journey might take you or who you might meet, or what you can learn along the way.

Do you have resolution for 2023 or are you a word of the year type person? Do these align with your overall goals?

I am nervous but excited to see what 2023 has in store for Mattie and I! I hope 2023 has some amazing stuff in it for you as well.

As always, share some love, we could all use a little more love

XOXOXOXO

Casey

Annual Calendar Review Time

This is one of my favorite weeks of the year. The time between the Christmas Holiday chaos and the start of the New Year. The few days of down time and quietness. It also happens to be one of my favorite person’s birthday this week, so that is a major plus!

I love planning and setting out goals. In the beginning of December, I sit down and write some big overarching goals. This week, I take the time to really hone in on those goals. Break them down into quarter goals, monthly goals, weekly goals, and focus on what I need to do daily to get to where I want to be. Having a huge goal is a great idea, I believe it is always better to overshoot than undershoot. However, sometimes when you have big goals, it is very hard to see the progress that you are making. That is why I like to break things down into quarters, months and weeks if I need too.

Before I begin honing in on my goals for the new year, I do something called a calendar review. I read this in a book by John Maxwell, Rachel Hollis also talks about this, but she learned it from John Maxwell as well.

I am a pen and paper girl, I still hand write things in my calendar. My calendar travels everywhere with me. I also carry highlighters because I highlight the different activities that I am doing. Every activity or thing receives a different color, from work to appts to self-care, the list goes on. The reason that I highlight, is so that I can easily see where I am spending most of my time at and where I potentially need to make more time for other things. I am sure google calendar can do this even better than I can, but for me, it is all about putting pen to paper and being able to check things off. This calendar review is something that does not have to wait until the end of the year to happen, it can happen quarterly or even monthly.

As I review my calendar and think about my goals, I am looking at what I completed versus what I did not get done. (I like to put check marks and x’s by things that get completed vs. not completed). If I am noticing that my self-care activities (journaling, meditation, little things that make me happy) are not as high as I would like them to be, then I will make sure to adjust my self-care goal more for next year. If I have a specific career goal, and I see areas where I really excelled in, I will aim to do more of that in the coming year. There are times when I see areas where I really struggled, that gives me pause to think, is this really getting me to where I need to be and if not, is this something I even need on my plate.

There is something special about looking back over the year, seeing everything you accomplished and the wonderful times that you had. You could even get extra creative and put pictures in from your events. After a few years of keeping your calendars, you would end up with somewhat of a scrap book of your life over the past years.

There are all different ways to get ready for the New Year, this just happens to be one of my ways. Regardless of how you get ready, just be sure you are getting ready. It is a great time to get refocused and zoned in on what you are wanting to accomplish in life. Remember, you only get one life. Be sure you are making the most of it!

As always share some love, we could all use a little more love!

XOXOXO

Casey

My Top 5 Lessons From 2022

My favorite thing from 2022 has been the lessons this year has taught me. Lessons that I didn’t even know I needed. Lessons to carry me into next year and beyond. Lessons that have truly helped me continue to grow, to become the person I was meant to be.  

Check it out, my top 5 lessons of 2022. 

Boundaries – I had never even heard of this word used in this context until I was sitting on my therapists couch while she very plainly said, Casey, you have no boundaries. What? I was astonished. It meant, that I played a huge part in things that happened without even realizing it. All because, I didn’t know how to use the word no. Because, I was willing to give in over and over again on things that I shouldn’t have. Because, I wasn’t willing to stick to my values. Because, I kept my mouth shut on things that I felt strongly about just so the issues would smooth over on their own. We all know that doesn’t happen though. We all know that you can’t sweep everything under the rug and not expect it to one day throw everything back out at you. Boundaries are important. Make sure you stick to your guns. If you don’t like something, speak up. Don’t be afraid to use the word no. Stand in your values. The people that matter the most will respect this more than you giving and giving and giving. 

Invest Your Time and Energy into People and Things that Invest back – Time is the biggest asset you will ever have. Be mindful of how you spend it, who you spend it with, and what you put your energy into. Let’s start with people. If you continually put energy into people who do not contribute the same energy back, stop and ask yourself why. What is it that you are missing that you can hope they fill? Why are you spending your most valuable asset on people who are not willing to do the same? Granted, I understand that everyone is busy, things comes up, life happens. But take a step back and really examine those relationships – more on this in the next lesson. When it comes to things you are putting your energy into, are they helping you reach your goals? Are they getting you to the next level? Are they the right things that you need to be doing to help you achieve your dreams? Again, take a step back and examine exactly where your time and energy is going. 

Listen to your Intuition – You know those feelings you get in your gut or your heart? Listen to those! So many times, we (or me personally) over think things. I over analyze to the point where I talk myself out of that initial feeling. Trust those feelings! The more you listen to them, the more often they will come. Eventually you will begin to see that they are leading you in the right direction. Going back to investing your time and energy into people/relationships. Your intuition can also help you see/understand if you listen to it that maybe just maybe you are putting too much of yourself into someone who honestly doesn’t see you that way. Learn to listen to it, you will be amazed at what happens. 

Happiness – You are truly the only person that can make yourself completely happy. This was a difficult concept for me because I would look at the big picture and feel I wasn’t far enough ahead or compare my journey to others. Instead, look for things each day that make you happy. This has been a game changer for me. Sure, there are going to be days where the sadness comes but work through it and continue to look for the good. It can be little things, like a free oil change because you have points on your app, or someone paying it forward and you get a free coffee, to seeing the a beautiful sunset. Look for the little things that warm your heart. 

Doing What is Best for You – This sort of ties into boundaries, but you have to look out for your best interest. No one else is going too. Every decision you make today, will affect you in one way or another six months down the road. Are you making decisions that are best for you or are you catering to others? Now, that being said, there is a fine line here. Of course you may have to keep others in mind in your decisions. If you do, hopefully those people are also wanting the best for you and will support you in your decisions. While many of us have kids or are in relationships or married, you also have to remember, you only get one life. How are you making the most of it?

This last month, 2022 has turned around for me, because I have intentionally set out to make it better. I am ready for 2023 and all the amazing things that are coming with it. How are you going to kick off your New Year? 

As always share some love, we could all use a little more love! 

XOXOXO

Casey