Things I wish I knew in my Twenties ….

The past few days I have been seeing posts that say – People in your thirties, what advise do you have to give to the people in their twenties? While I did comment on some of them, I did want to share more than just one tip. So why not do what I do best and write, it is my cure for everything. Check out my Top 5 tips I wish I knew or had done in my twenties

  1. You don’t have to go to College right away or even at all.

While this is totally against what most people say and think, I am living proof that sometimes it is okay to wait to go to college. My advice would be to go see the world. Move out of your home town. Work. Travel and figure out what you want to do in life, without the influence of other people. There is a huge world out there, explore it. You never know what you will fall in love with. On top of that, if you do go back to college at an older age, you will appreciate everything you learn so much more! Trust me, this I know for a fact.

2. Do what makes you happy regardless of what society, your parents, your friends, or even your neighbors think.

You only have one life. Do not waste it trying to make someone else happy or doing something for someone else.  For so long I tried to “fit in” with what I thought was the right thing that I should be doing. Which in turn pushed aside what I really wanted to do, what my passions were.   You are your own person. Your thoughts, your feelings, your passions are yours and no one else’s. Do not let anyone take those away from you. Pursue those passions with a fire. Do things you love.

3. Save some money from every check

I waited tables and was a bartender for almost 12 years of my life and I have nothing to show for it except some great customer service skills and I know how to make a drink or two. Seriously though, regardless of how much money you make, make sure you save some of it. Save some from every paycheck or every shift you work, even if it is only $5. After 20 shifts you will have $100. Depending on how many shifts a week, that’s roughly $100 a month you are saving. Now just think, if I had done that, I would have over 14 thousand dollars in the bank not including interest. If you have a full-time job, fantastic. Make sure you set up your 401K and at the very minimum put in what you need to get your company to match you.

4. It is okay to be alone

For some reason there is this huge expectation that we have to be married right out of college and have a baby the following year. I am here to tell you, it doesn’t have to be that way. Trust me, I would love to be married and have a family but I also want it to be with the right person. Don’t ever settle because you deserve the world. If your partner isn’t willing to do for you what you are willing to do for them, then maybe just maybe they aren’t the partner for you. It is okay to wait. It is okay to not get married in your twenties. It is more than acceptable to wait for the person that sets your soul on fire.

5. Be a nice human being

There were a lot of times in my twenties when I was not a very nice person, especially since I worked in a restaurant for all of them.  Be a nice person. Show compassion and love. Show grace. No one is perfect and everyone makes mistakes. That perfect family or life you see on social media isn’t real.  Everyone has their own troubles and struggles that you may know nothing about. Be nice and spread some love.

These may seem like small tips to some but sometimes it is the little things that matter the most.

Whatever you do in your twenties, be great doing it.

And as always, spread some love. We could all use a little more love.

XOXO

Casey

How Changing Your Mindset Can Change Your Life

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You might be wondering why I am feeling compelled to share my college experiences. I do promise there is a point. Every decision that I have made the last 6 years has put me to where I am today. Some of those decisions included me growing and getting out of my comfort zone. I wanted to translate how important it is to get out and grow. To experience life. When you don’t, you honestly don’t know what you are missing or what you are capable of achieving.

The semester I was supposed to graduate I took an internship with the Texas Beef Council. Yes, I postponed my graduation! Once again, God was working his magic. The decision to apply for this internship was one of the best decisions I have made. I don’t even remember how I came up with the courage to apply. I just knew when I saw the email about the internship opportunity that it was something that I was really interested in, especially since Texas CattleWomen worked so close with them. Y’all this internship, there are no words on how awesome it was. My partner in crime for the semester was the greatest. I am telling you, this was a dream come true for me. I met so many incredible people, I got to work with some of the best in the industry and this internship truly taught me to spread my wings and grow. I am so thankful for that opportunity, for the people I have met are truly amazing.

Around this time I decided to apply for Graduate school. I had no intentions of moving back “home” (Wharton) anytime soon. College Station was/is my new home, for now anyway.  Graduate school was/is rough, the whole first year and a half I felt I made the wrong decision. I was on the major struggle bus.  I couldn’t find a project to do to write my thesis on and I honestly wanted to quit and just go to work. I was really unhappy with my life, for the whole past year actually. It was the “woe is me” type thing. I was stuck and never thought I was getting out and my life was so hard, it wasn’t fair, blah blah blah. When I look at myself back then, I just shake my head. I had done so many awesome things and grown so much and when I hit a road block those negative thoughts started happening and good went to bad and bad went to worse.

Roughly 6 months ago I was looking for a way to make extra money. I didn’t want to go back to waiting tables, I loved my full-time job but I wanted something extra to try to pay off some debt and get Mattie to Disney. I made a decision that has really turned my life around. Not only my life, but my mindset on life in general. I joined Younique, which is a makeup and skincare company. I had no idea what I was doing when I joined but I figured I would give it a shot. Once again God is so good y’all! I was blessed with the most amazing black status upline. She literally took me under her wings and has worked with me and taught me to fly, because at the time I had very little experience with makeup. She is one of those amazing ladies who is always positive no matter what, she keeps the positivity, the charisma, and the “I can do” attitude in all our group chats, team posts etc. She turned me on to Mr. Ray Higdon who has been such a blessing for me. I have never met him personally but I learn sooooo much from all of his online trainings. I have seen my mindset shift from woe is me to being grateful for the opportunity to wake up and do something I love every day. Mindset is everything. If you get anything from this blog let that be it and when I say mindset, I am meaning the way you look at things. If you are constantly negative and only see the bad in people or pay attention to all the terrible things going on in this world, that is what you are going to attract. The Law of Attraction. Transition your thoughts to what you are grateful for, transition your thoughts to how you would feel when you accomplish your wildest dreams, transition your thoughts to thinking you have already achieved them. It isn’t easy. I have to work every day at it and some days are a lot harder than others. Keeping negativity and negative people out of your life is probably one of the hardest things to do, especially if they are your friends. It all depends on you though and what kind of life you want for yourself.

I have my fingers crossed that I can graduate this Fall. I haven’t started job hunting yet but I have been finalizing the vision I have for myself. I did find an incredible project that I am so grateful to be working on for my graduate work. Needless to say, I am very excited to see what 2020 has in store for me.

As always spread some love

XOXO

Casey

Sliding into 2019

2019 started with my foot on the gas pedal!  A quiet New Year’s Eve evening with Mattie popping fireworks with my dad and me, which has turned into a tradition, has turned into a non-stop roller coaster from Mattie’s extracurricular activities to starting a new job to my CattleWomen to school starting.  My life has been busy busy busy but I wouldn’t have it any other way!

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I am definitely excited to see what is in store for 2019.  2018 was amazing overall but I was glad to see it go.  A new year always means a new slate to me.  A new year to make a difference and to live life to the fullest. 2018 started off with a bang and slowly dwindled down so I can only imagine what 2019 has in store.  It is true, my thirties have already been better than my twenties and I am just getting started.

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It is crazy how your path can take you to different places, with different people, and you learn and become interested in different things.  I always knew that I had a creative side in me.  I mean, I did originally want to go to College for a photography degree. The more time I spend working the more and more I fall in love with it. I was sitting at my desk the other day working on a design for a new website and I thought to myself, I should have been a communication major or something equivalent.  I wish I would have gotten more experience in that field in school but one of my classes this semester is Ag Design so I am super excited about that.

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God continues to bless me every day and I am so thankful for all the wonderful opportunities that I have been given and my amazing parents for making those opportunities possible for me.

2019 is going to be a year of rebuilding for me, a year of growing up, a year of finding new hobbies and pursuing them, a year of traveling (gotta love my CattleWomen ladies), a year of making new memories and a year of cherishing everything and everyone around me.

Here is to 2019 and I hope your year is the best that is can possibly be!

As always share some love, we can always use some more love!