Have you ever had people in your life that you instantly connected with? People that after a while of being around each other, you developed an intense connection? Not just the surface level friend connection, the kind of connection where you can sit and talk for hours, have in depth conversations on life, feelings, the meaning of things. Those friendships/relationships that you see lasting a life time, the ones where you talk about growing old together or living next door to each other and raising kids together. I firmly believe that these type of connections are a necessity to us. With the advancement of technology we have anyone we could ever want to talk to right at our fingertips but how many of those people do you actually have a connection with? A conversation through text messaging is nothing compared to a conversation in person. To sit with someone and feel the energy, to watch as their eyes light up when they get excited about things. To embrace and cry together when things are not okay, that is a true connection.
I have had some amazing best friends in my life. Friends that were there for everything. The good, the bad, and the really really hard stuff. The battles that on my own, I wasn’t sure if I would have made it out. Unfortunately, life has a crazy way of happening, moves get made, jobs change, and one day you wake up and realize you haven’t heard from your friends in a while. Next thing you know, six months, a year, and then two years have gone by. That connection that you once had, it fizzles and dies. If you both aren’t actively putting energy into the relationship, it is hard to maintain it, especially when it is long distance and over text messages. I speak as someone who has lost most of their connections along the way. As someone who is really terrible at communicating when it comes to maintaining those relationships that are long distance. As someone who watches posts and follows along with their friends life from afar.
Soul connections are a rare find. When you find them, don’t let them go. Water them, nourish them, and grow together. Be there to pick each other up, an ear when it’s needed, a sounding board, and someone that gives honest feedback even when it may hurt. One of the greatest things that I have learned this past year, is how precious true friendship is. You don’t know what you are missing until you don’t have it anymore.
Me, I have a big heart, I am a big time lover, I am all about connecting with people. However, I have been hurt deepest by some of the people that I was the closest with. Not everyone is meant to stay in your life forever though. Some people are only there for a season, to teach you something you needed to know. While it hurts, after you get through the pain, the reflection, I guarantee you will come out a stronger person. Those connections serve an even better purpose, helping you get to the person you were meant to be. We need connections now more than ever, so don’t let seasonal connections deter you from making new ones.
I have recently started something new and it has been really good for me. If I am with those important people in my life and we go to dinner or hang out, I disconnect from my phone. I put it in my purse, leave it in the truck, or just keep it out of sight. This way, I can truly give my undivided attention to those people and there is something special about that. We need more of that.
Never stop being open to making new connections, you never know who may change your life.
Share some love, we could all use a little more love