Why Solid Habits are Important

Life has a way of throwing you off balance sometimes. One minute, you have your routine down, you are getting things done, and the next thing you know four months have gone by and your progression has stalled.

This recently happened to me, I was on a role. I was reading daily, I was writing, I was journaling, I was staying ahead of my to do list. Then one day it stopped. I got busy and stopped making time to read. I stopped writing. I stopped trying to advertise for my boutique. I was barely doing the basics that I needed to do.

Looking back now, I wasn’t busy. I got wrapped up spending my time doing the wrong things. I was letting my feelings get the best of me. This year has been a lot, some ups, a lot of downs and I lot of wondering what the heck am I doing. I got to the point where, I didn’t want to do anything anymore. I didn’t want to read (which is one of my favorite things to do), I didn’t want to write, and I had to force myself to work and be a mom. If I could have, I would have happily stayed in bed and binged out on Netflix and Social Media.

I recently went through a job change and knew this would fix my funk. It has to a degree but it was the instantaneous fix that I was hoping for. Last week, I was in bed trying to figure out how to get out of the hole. How to feel passionate again about things, to be excited to work on my to-do list instead of forcing myself to work on it. I realized that trying to fix everything at once was not going to work. That I could not just jump back in and be the same productive person I was four months ago, I needed to start out small and work my way back up.

I decided to start with reading, my goal was to read at least 30 minutes a day. By day 2, I was hungry for reading. I didn’t have to force myself to open my book. It was something I looked forward too. I have read almost every day since, if I missed a day then I doubled up the next day. Reading for me helps bring my passion back.

I realized that this all goes back to the habits you build. When you have a routine with solid habits, it is a lot harder to get thrown off course. I had a routine but my habits got broken because they were not set in stone. I sat in that brokenness instead of finding a way out. I am happy to say that my head is coming out of the clouds and things are looking up. I am excited to work on my habits again and start building some new ones along the way.

Start with one thing, anything you want to do, add it to a part of your daily routine and watch that habit become part of your every day life.

Share some love, we could all use a little more love.
XOXOXO
Casey

Favorite Places and Mental Reset Days

The older I get and the more I grow as a person, I continue to see and realize how important mental health is. Sometimes you just need a time out. A mental health day to reset. Never be afraid to take these days for yourself. Whether you are married, a parent, a single parent, or living your best life, these days are essential. No matter what is going on, you have to take care of yourself first before you can take care of anyone else. 

I was able to have a reset this past weekend. I went to one of my favorite places and put my toes in the sand. I turned on my favorite music and watched the waves crash onto the shore. I blocked out all the thoughts and really just tried to get in tune with my surroundings. The way the sand felt between my toes, the sounds of the waves, the feel of the ocean, the open sky, even the seagulls that really wanted some of my Cheez-its. It was an opportunity for me to know and understand that sometimes, you just have to let things go and see what happens. 

The only downfall of having a reset day, is that when you come back home, all the things you left are still there. Hopefully, your reset can put a new perspective on things and you are able to find a new way to navigate them. For me, the last two weeks, I have been having trouble sleeping. Waking up in the middle of the night and having my mind just run 100 miles an hour. Stress and anxiety can do that to you. While my reset helped some, if you are unable to get a way, here are some tips that can help with sleeping through the night

  • Technology – turn it off and don’t use it before bed 
  • Regular exercise 
  • Meditate prior to bed
  • Create a calming environment
  • Journal – getting all those thoughts out and down on paper 
  • Be sure to take time to unwind
  • Read

Don’t forget, taking care of yourself is one of the most important things you can do for yourself. You only get one life, make it a happy one. 

As always share some love, we could all use a little more love. 

XOXOXO

Casey

Choose Forgiveness.

Forgiveness. Such a big word that packs so much meaning. It is the act or process of forgiving or being forgiven. To forgive is to stop feeling angry or resentful toward someone for an offense, flaw, or mistake. Forgiveness can sometimes be one of the hardest things to do, depending on what the other person has done to offend you. 

I have been mulling over this forgiveness issue for a while lately. I have often forgiven people for things they have done (even when they didn’t realize they did anything wrong). But how do you know when you have truly forgiven someone?

  • Time – one thing for sure, forgiveness takes time. There have been a few times where I said I have forgiven people, but honestly I hadn’t yet. I needed more time to feel, to work through whatever the issue was, and to move forward on my own time. Time is important.
  • When you can talk about what happened as a point of reference and not a point of pain – When talking about the issue no longer causes you hurt, you have reached forgiveness.
  • When revenge becomes a non-issue – If you reach the point of no longer trying to get back at someone for what they did to you, I would say you have reached forgiveness with them. 
  • When the lesson has been learned – sometimes when things happen, we don’t sit in the pain. We brush everything under the rug and go on with life. Then the same situation happens again and again, over and over. In this type of situation, learning through forgiveness allows for new boundaries to be set up. Boundaries, I have recently learned, are a very healthy thing to have. (Don’t worry, I have another blog on boundaries coming!)
  • Helping your offender – If something arised and the person that has hurt you needed help and you were able to help them and feel okay about it, you have probably reached forgiveness. 

Not only is forgiveness good for you emotionally, but there are some health benefits to forgiveness as well. Some of these include; less anxiety and stress, improved mental health, lower blood pressure, and improved heart health. 

Some hold on to grudges for ages, but think about what all you are missing out on. If you are so tied up being angry with someone else, you are missing out on all the good that is going on around you. I get it, you are probably saying, “Casey, you have no idea what they did to me”, but I bet I can relate in a small way. I have been through the abusive relationships, the liars, the cheaters, the people who take advantage, and raising a child on my own. I also understand that we as humans make mistakes, I know I have made my fair share. I have chosen the route of forgiveness, whether people have apologized or not.

Life to too short to constantly be hindered by something that happened in the past. Take the time to learn to forgive. It may take time, but I bet your heart will feel much lighter and happier. Choose Happiness. Choose Forgiveness.

Share some love, we could all use a little more love.

XOXOXO

Casey