I have always wanted to be an author. Lately I have been thinking about what it would be like to be a NY Times Best Selling Author. How amazing would it be to have people not only buy your book, but read the words that you have written. To have people laughing and crying with you as you write page after page. I can almost feel that feeling, I can just imagine it. That imagination fuels fire to my dreams. One day I will be a NY Times Best-selling author.
It has been quite some time since I have written publically so I figured I should start out with a bang. Five life lessons I have learned in my short time (31 years) on Earth. I am very curious to see how many people can relate to this!
You Can’t Change Someone
This is huge, for so long I thought that maybe if I was good enough or pour my whole heart and soul into a relationship that that person would really see how amazing I am. They would change their ways and be a better person. They would love everything about me, the good, the bad, the ugly and everything would be hunky dory. Wrong! People only change when they are ready to change and there is not much you can do to make it happen any faster, if it ever happens at all. If you are not being treated right, fix your crown and move on.
No One Will Hand You Your Dreams on a Silver Platter
I grew up in the Disney Era, with the Little Mermaid and Cinderella. For a long time I waited for my knight in shining armor to swoop in and give me the world. Don’t get me wrong, I worked but I was waiting for someone to fulfill my dreams for me. That, my friends, doesn’t happen. You may find the perfect person to be there and support you while you achieve your dreams but no one is going to hand them to you. If you happen to find someone that will just hand them to you then you won’t get the satisfaction of ever really achieving your dreams. If you are really wanting to accomplish your goals, put your head down and hustle hard. Hustle harder than you have ever hustled before. You will get there before you know it.
Being a People Pleaser Gets You No Where
Okay, before everyone jumps on me. Yes, you can get somewhere by being a people pleaser, however, you will never achieve what you are fully capable of achieving. I am/was a people pleaser. It is something that I have had to work really hard at changing. You will never ever and I repeat NEVER EVER make everyone happy. So why try? There will always be someone who doesn’t agree with what you say or just doesn’t like you. That my friends is A OKAY. Focus on your dreams and aspirations and let the other people worry about themselves.
You Can Do Anything You Put Your Mind To – With A Little Hard Work
Okay, let’s be a little realistic here. I remember being little and being told you can be anything you want to be. While that may be true, it takes a lot of hard work to be anything you want to be. Hard work requires growth, which requires stepping out of your comfort zone, which makes accomplishing those dreams a little easier. For example, I sell makeup as a side hustle. Me! The girl that hardly ever wore makeup, the girl that made her friends do her makeup if they were going out, the girl that used to wear gold, dusty eyeshadow for crying out loud! Yes, I still have pictures to prove it. I am that girl but guess what, I am loving the skin I am in now. I knew I wanted something more for Mattie and I and this was a way for me to achieve that. So I joined a company and haven’t looked back. It hasn’t been easy but it has been worth it!
Be Your Own Unique Self
This, this right here hits home so hard for me. I look back to those awkward teenage years until now and I see so many different people that I tried to be to fit in or be liked. It really makes me sad. There is only one you, God made you to shine just being yourself, so do that. The last two years have been some of the best of my life. I have finally started to figure out who I am. Been letting my inner girl shine. The last two years have also been full of huge lessons for me. All I know is that my confidence is building and I am beginning to step more and more out of my comfort zone! I cannot wait for this next year to see what will happen. Just remember to be yourself, the people that matter won’t mind and the ones that mind don’t matter.
As always spread some love.